Proactive Projection
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Despite my title, I give her early credit for taking a stab at heading off any “drama” (as she put it) in the following email:
LM,
I just wanted to update you on S2. He still has a 103 fever. I’m going to give it till tomorrow and see if they can call something other than Amoxcicillan in. If my memory serves me, he never really responds to that. I called the Dr. this morning and they said to give it another 24 hours.
Also, I wanted to head off any holiday drama this year. Thanksgiving is mind right?
I know you get Christmas again, but that IS my week, so you will pick up on Christmas Eve and return them either Christmas Day evening or in the AM on the 26th? Please confirm pick up and drop off asap.
New years is mine this year. which falls during your week, so I am assuming we exchange new years eve and then again New years day??
Like I said. I want to head off the drama before it begins, so please respond asap.
It’s apparently still too difficult for her to check the court order as the schedule is that clear.
- Thanksgiving is hers this year.
- Christmas is mine this year, pick-up on Christmas Eve and drop-off on December 26th.
- New Year’s is hers this year, pick-up on New Year’s Eve and drop-off on January 1st.
I did laugh a little at her contention that she is the one trying to head off the drama, considering she is the only one who has engaged in custodial interference, failing to show up for my Christmas holiday with the children in 2006. This resulted in a contempt hearing where she was found guilty of custodial interference and failure to follow other provisions of the court order in place at the time.
But hey… if that makes her feel better and she ultimate complies with the order this year… I’m okay with that!
October 15th, 2008 at 5:08 pm
I never cease to be amazed at how similar these women are. It’s frightening, really.
The words you used, “It’s apparently still too difficult for her to check the court order as the schedule is that clear,” are words we have used verbatim in our dealings with The Egg Donor.
The Court Order is crystal clear, right down to the exact times and locations of exchanges for every single holiday known to mankind. But it never stopped her from sending yet another e-mail “clarifying” what it said. Usually “clarifying” meant changing…
Ugh.
October 15th, 2008 at 6:52 pm
It sounds to me like she’s trying to stir up some drama, not head it off. We get the same things. Our court order is crystal clear - including days, dates, and times - yet we always, always get the e-mails, texts and phone calls. She “just wants to confirm”.
Of course, in our opinion, there’s nothing to confirm since it’s laid out clear as day in the court order, and there’s been no talk of deviating from that.
I say she just wants attention. Just wants to know if my husband will pay attention to her. Just wants to see if there might be a teeny little opening for a drama to unfold. Just wants to know if she still exists.
October 21st, 2008 at 12:44 pm
I had to laugh out loud at this, because it is so familiar! Anything that begins with anything that sounds remotely like “I’m not trying to cause trouble” is most definitely trouble!
I agree with the attention thing. It’s like things get too quiet, so she (and so many like her) want to be certain she makes her existence known.