The Psycho Ex Wife

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As you will see throughout our story, there are themes. There will always be issues with holidays, vacations, and dentists/doctors visits. Most of these have to do with two things, either responsibility which PEW can’t handle, or anytime PEW feels as if she’s being abandoned. This year’s dentist debacle was a special treat we’ve missed for awhile simply because the responsibility for taking them to the dentist was too much and they missed the last 3 visits. Keep in mind LM pays for insurance and PEW has primary custody at this point. We get the boys 4 days a month and yet she can’t handle 2 appointments a year *rolleyes*.

(04/16/2007) PEW

LM, I am having a serious problem with the dental insurance. I can’t find a dentist who accepts it. I’ve called several…I even went to the website…called dentists from there and the dental offices are telling me NO…they are not in the network. Both kids need an appointment, but especially S6 because the school wants it…..is there a dentist in your state or something who can see him this weekend maybe?

LM:

Sorry you’re having such difficulty finding a participating dentist. I called “Insurance” directly and they told me that we can take the children to ANY dentist ANYWHERE in the country. If they take insurance, they should take our insurance card and file a claim directly with “Insurance”. If any dentist chooses not to do that, you will be required to pay up-front and then submit the claim for which you will be reimbursed 100%.

I have attached a claim form just for review. My dentist doesn’t have weekend hours so the worst case scenario is that we do what we had to in 2005… just give me the bills for the boys, I will submit them with the claim form, and write you a check when the reimbursement check comes. Like before, I have to submit for the reimbursement because the policy is through my employer.

PEW:

LM, I do not have $600 laying around to fork out for the dentist…..especially since I have to pay you $675 this month. How about you take them to the dentist and put the money out? Thanks for nothing. You are just AWFUL.

LM:

It doesn’t cost $600 for cleanings for the boys. Further, whatever you have to put out you will get back in full for the visits, just like in ‘05. Also, don’t forget about the $365.94 which is owed me from the hospital visit for S9 last year. You had 20-days, which I believe has expired, to reimburse me, which again puts you in contempt of court. Please stop with the angry and abusive emails. Thanks.

PEW:

I will have to leave ANOTHER job I love, because you can’t “be there” for your children. It has become glaringly obvious that you don’t EVER want to pay child support again, so you won’t work. And NOW you can’t even provide decent health benefits for them. I will start looking for a NEW job where I can get the kids decent benefits. Thanks LM….Thanks for RUINING our lives.

LM:

Please stop with the angry and abusive emails. Thanks.

PEW:

you can take them to the dentist over the summer. I will let the school know.

LM:

I would suggest that you take them sooner rather than later unless a future switch to CHIP will cover dental as well. You know that the affordability of Cobra for the both of us at this time is not very good. Just a suggestion in the best interests of the boys’ dental health.

PEW:

As I told you, there was a window of opportunity for the CHIP, which has passed. I would have to re-apply and who knows if they would accept us again. I take care of every aspect of the childrens physical, emotional, and academic health……I don’t think it’s too much to ask for you to do a dentist appointment ONE time per year. I’m leaving it at that. It’s neglect on your part if you do not do it. Your insurance company will not even speak to me or reimburse me directly….it makes perfect sense for you to do this for your children. That’s all I have to say on this matter. I am telling the school that the boys will go to the dentist over the summer when they are with you.

LM:

When was the last time the boys were at the dentist? Who was the dentist?

PEW:

The fall of 2005 and it was Dr. B and he does not accept the Insurance

LM:

The boys haven’t had an exam or cleaning in almost 2-years? And you intimated that I’m neglectful if I don’t take them? They should be getting exams/cleanings every 6-months, PEW. Too much trouble for you?

You do know it was a state requirement to have this done prior to the school year. And I must remind you that we may not have Cobra by the time Summertime rolls around. I’ll urge you again to take them to the dentist ASAP. You fought very hard to be the primary custodian, you should be caring for them like one. Or, if it’s too much trouble for you, again, we can always change custody arrangements. But please spare me your angry, abusive retorts. Or, if you were going to just not take them, you could have informed me prior to last Summer and I could have taken them. Take them to the dentist and get the form to the school.

Our commentary: Yes, we are supposed to pay child support, pay for insurance, take care of all the appointments including taking an entire day off to drive up to her state in order to do so, make sure they are eating well (when she has them too you know), punish them over the phone when they hit kids at school (she can’t be the “bad” parent), teach them how to tie their shoes, ride bikes, study, do it all, yes, even though we only see them 4-days a month. It must be nice to be the “primary” parent! Also, notice the projection? She says LM is neglectful, when you can clearly see it’s her. What an asshole.