The Psycho Ex Wife

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Continuing from Negotiating with a Terrorist - Part I…

Her last email was followed up with the following, much more urgently worded stop sign…

LM,

Please hold off on sending anything to [your lawyer]. I need some more time to think about this. Honestly I don’t know how comfortable I am with how quickly you want to move this forward. I also don’t know how I feel about the car. I’m locked into driving S1 to school everyday for the rest of the year….and back. And S2 too for that matter. I need time to think about the whole custody issue too.

I need more time.

Thanks,
PEW

In matter of hours we’ve gone from an agreement… to disagreement over a vehicle detail… to disagreement on pretty much EVERY detail. Thanks? Oh, okay. You’re welcome. Ass.

Still, I’m negotiating from a position of weakness and I try to maintain decorum, civility, and nudge this towards an end. I reply…

PEW,

I can’t force you to do anything. But you have to understand something… I want to move forward in a positive direction and it seemed as though we were kicking that off in the right direction. Unfortunately, [my lawyer] has probably already mailed everything to [your lawyer's] office, so I can’t stop that now.

The longer this continues… the more it costs the both of us. I told you already that things are getting tight with the house and I cannot continue to pay for it… that will become a problem very soon. We need to put this to rest and move on, PEW.

I can’t keep going around in circles with you. You want to settle, then you don’t. Then you want to settle then you don’t. Then you want to settle, we actually work out an agreement, and two days later you don’t want to settle. I can’t keep doing this. We can’t keep doing this.

What happened to wanting to stop the madness and move on amicably and do what’s best for the children? I’m really trying here.

~LM

That pretty much sums it up. We can end the madness or not. My belief in my understanding of borderline personality disorder leads me to believe that if we end the madness, we end her reason for existing.

LM,

It’s just that you’ve been nothing but horrible since last February. I am in $10,000 of debt because of you and you want to split hairs over the van. When I was keeping the van you wanted money thrown your way, with you keeping it….. that’s it. Let’s sell the van or sell both cars. Split the difference, that seems alot more fair.

I have reservations about sharing custody 50/50. You’re claiming you want what’s best for them, but seriously is it just that you’re over a barrel right this minute??? It feels like you’re manipulating me again.

All this stuff you’re doing right now, should have been done last March. I’m thinking about this.

~PEW

I’ve been nothing but horrible to her. I filed nothing more than a counter-petition when she blind-sided me with the surprise custody petition. Everything else she has filed… injunctions, hearings over school, custody of the children, and has seen to it that her attorney has read, reviewed, accepted, rejected every bit of correspondence to that point… and I cost her. Everything that has occurred to this point (and beyond) was due to her taking action and incurring the costs. Everything. As always, it’s all someone else’s fault. Namely me.

And remember the repeated assertions about it always being about the money for me? Here, she suggests that we sell both vehicles, taking a big financial hit, and both be left without vehicles just so that she can have more cash, regardless of the horrible position it would leave either her or both her and I. All about the money for who? For the psycho ex-wife.

From here it would continue to disintegrate. Part III coming soon…