The Psycho Ex Wife

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Though this is a continuation of the mindless discussions about everything, it came on the heels of me asking pertinent questions about her “friend” with whom she wanted to place S2 for babysitting to the tune of $160 for 3 half days.  Some of it is funny, some not so funny.

I asked basic questions about if she was a certified sitter, if she had first-aid and CPR training, insurance, basic stuff one might ask about someone or some agency that would be caring for the kid(s).  Outside of family and mutual friends, these are questions I would have and have previously asked.  She interpreted my questions as wanting to fight.  She obviously didn’t get that my asking those questions at the time were indicative of me at least giving it some consideration, even as she had already indicated that she was going to put him with the facility we had researched.

PEW:

I interpret your questions as fighting because you don’t give a rfvtc shit about who watches the kids any other time than when I ask you to pitch in for it. You didn’t ask me who was going to be watching the kids when you TOOK OFF to [home state] with two weeks notice. I just assumed you didn’t care who watched them. Now all the sudden I want you to share the cost of day care and you have questions.

You are so transparent.

If anyone reading knows what “rfvtc” means, please clue me in on the secret. Thanks.

LM:

And you are so delusional.

Here’s reality:

• I have always cared about who watches the kids.
• I was the one who not only made arrangements to register S2 for [The Learning Center] last Summer… but also registered S1 for full-time aftercare at [elementary school] in the Fall… the last time you told me that you were going to go full-time day shift.
• I have always been happy to pay my fair share of child care. This has nothing to do with paying anyone and everything to do with making sure I am completely informed about the person who is watching them. NOT CARING would be indicative of someone who didn’t want to be informed. I do. However, you made the decision easy. I’d rather they be going to a certified, licensed, bonded, insured daycare facility and am all too happy to pay my share.

You only interpret is as fighting because that is the whole of your existence… to fight. You keep telling yourself the stories that allow you to perhaps sleep well at night. I’ll bet you are getting such a CHARGE out of me responding to your mindless rantings again, aren’t you? I can almost see you high-fiving yourself in the mirror.

PEW: No here’s reality: I had to divorce you because you are insane. (Do you want the details? I have details)

LM: False.

PEW: You quickly hitched up to your next gravy train.

LM: This implies you were a gravy train. What the hell did you ever bring to the marriage except the ability to make debt appear faster than I could pay it down?

PEW: You introduced your new girlfriend to the kids way before it was appropriate.

LM: According to you and your “side” and counselors with whom you work. For as many as you can “produce” to support you, I promise you, I can put up plenty to support mine. But again, that is not your concern, you want to fight! That’s all you ever want to do!

PEW: You moved to another state 400 miles away, not caring what the impact would be on the children.

LM: False.

PEW: You put the dog to sleep because he was impeding your ability to make trips to [home state] to see your girlfriend.

LM: False.

PEW: You never asked me who would be caring for the kids until I asked you to help me pay for it.

LM: False. Again, I made arrangements as long ago as last Summer for childcare for BOTH boys and arrangements to pay for same. Stop lying to yourself.

PEW: All true…..you are delusional…..and there is also something seriously wrong with you. I’m not ever rolling over for you again.

LM: False.

A PEW’s ability to spin anything into something diabolical, an attack, something underhanded, something with an ulterior motive… is quite frankly, as exasperating as it is bizarre. Of course, you probably already know that, don’t you?

What I always find interesting is that I think about if she were to have a blog that talked about me as she interpreted the entirety of the relationship.  I imagine that I would rank somewhere up in the top 10% of the most diabolical men on earth, what with all the child abuse, spousal abuse, drug abuse, alcohol abuse, homosexuality, beastiality, animal abuser… [insert false accusation here].  I can also still remember quite vividly her telling DW that I couldn’t hide all of these issues from her for long.  After all, she suffered in this “horribly abusive relationship” for 10+ years.

Back then, DW told her something to the effect:  ‘I’ve been with him for a year and I haven’t seen one single instance of any accusation you have ever made against him and Lord knows, there are many.’

I’m happy to say that we’re in our 5th year together, and they still haven’t manifested themselves with DW or her children (or mine).  So, that leaves the following possible explanations:

1. I’m hiding it really, really, really well and DW is in for a hellstorm of abuse from me at any time now.
2. DW already is suffering at my hands and is just covering up for me.
3. I’ve changed dramatically and completely since systematically abusing PEW.
4. She’s fucking crazy and none of the shit she accuses me of is reality to anyone except her.

I pick #4.