The Psycho Ex Wife

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Continuing from Part 5, where PEW made overtures of my returning to her if I “changed” - she does the mirroring thing where she again projects, even using similar language to my own often used against her.   You’ll notice that with each new allegation - there is a complete lack of supporting evidence.  In fact, there isn’t even an effort to at least detail in text anything that would support her claims.  She just randomly tosses out thoughts and accusation.  Of course, those hooks would deeply embed in my cheek and I would be caught in the madness.  This is not the conclusion, I’m sorry to say.

PEW:

When I read this….I wonder if we were sharing the same life for the time we were married. Do you actually believe yourself? Just as you claim, you “revisionist history” so do I.

LM:

Yes, but the difference between you and I is that I can substantiate the overwhelming majority of what I claim with stuff written or typed by you. Further, I can substantiate the claims I make about myself in much the very same way. The public you and the private your are two vastly different things, and all of those people who “love you” and your public personna would be aghast at the way you conducted your life in private.

PEW:

I guess your family and friends have your story and my family and friends have mine. Who’s right, who’s wrong, who really cares anymore? For someone who is “over it” you certainly put alot of energy into trying to correct my account of the way things were. I’m tired of going back and forth too.

LM:

True, and the energy I put into this has one purpose and it’s not dwelling on the past… it’s precisely what I have repeatedly claimed it was - recounting actual events in the face of your storytelling. When your storytelling and whining about our marriage stops - so do my corrections. Think about it.

PEW:

I’m saying that you’ll get to spend ample amount of time with the kids, until we get the report from Gloria.

LM:

Yes, as I figured - until you get what you hope is appropriate ammo to use against me. I hope the roll of the dice is worth the consequences for you, because you are fighting against what is good for the children. Keep that in mind when you go to bed at night. The children want to spend more time with me. The children need to spend more time with me. What SHOULD this all mean to you if you really gave a rat’s ass about the children? What it means is that you are fighting against the children.

PEW:

I’ll also get to spend an ample amount of time with them because that is what is fair. So the summer, until we get to court, will be split 50/50.

LM:

So what you’re telling me is that 2 months primary for me and 10 months primary for you isn’t “fair.” You know who it isn’t fair to? You. Why? Because it’s about you and not the children. This situation shouldn’t be left up to Gloria. She said that herself. This should be decided by us and by fair-minded people. However, clearly, someone who believes that 2 months of primary time with their father isn’t “fair” - can’t possibly be a rational, clear thinking adult with the best interests of the children in mind. Only more vindictiveness and if the children suffer - you couldn’t care less, as long as you could cry long and hard about how little help you get.

PEW:

As usual, I’m not going to respond to any of the things you’ve said because it’s all “bull”. I will say one thing though, I have many meaningful long term relationships with people. I still have my best friend from Kindergarten, high school, my old neighborhood. I am close with my family, cousins, Aunts/Uncles. Neighbors like me, co-workers, bosses, teachers, doctors.

LM:

Who are you trying to convince here? You sure are working hard to convince yourself (it seems). You have superficial relationships with most of them, and those who don’t agree with your stories or question your version of events - GONE! POOF! Just like that! Just like so many counselors, coworkers, friends, etc…

PEW:

How many meaningful relationships do you have? Not many. You’re not close to anyone LM. Not your brothers anymore, I doubt you even talk to MCB much.

LM:

Do you even have a clue what you’re talking about? Clearly not. I have many meaningful relationships with friends, many friends of 20+ years. MCB, Lisa, Brian, Dave, Christine, Paul - several people you never even met. But I know it makes you feel good to think that I am just a lost, suffering soul without someone who considers themselves as great as you think you are. As for my family, we have our occasional disagreements, but please don’t delude yourself into thinking what you’ve written above.

Just another case of you working very hard to accept your own distortions as reality. It still isn’t working on my watch, PEW. Count on that.

PEW:

Who has the credibility in a situation like this? The guy who is anti-social and backwards, or the person well-liked by pretty much everyone who meets her? That aint you. Most of the people from [our workplace] hated you.

LM:

Other than Toni, you should think twice about mentioning the people at [workplace]. The people at [workplace] always have liked me and still do. I assure you that the same couldn’t be said for you. But again, you pacify yourself with these warped distortions of reality. Remember, I’m the guy who had to bail you out (twice) from major, unprofessional blowouts at work. But again… stories that matter not here anymore except to pacify your desire to dwell on the past and work so hard to convince yourself of how great you are.

PEW:

You had major falling outs with a majority of your friends (fantasy football and otherwise, ie: Don)

LM:

One guy. One. 1, PEW. A guy who doesn’t speak to me because he cheated his friends for money. Nice example you picked there.

PEW:

LM, you have never had the ability to get along with anyone.

LM:

False.

PEW:

I on the other hand, have successful relationships with some pretty difficult people.

LM:

Pretty difficult people who support you. You abandon those who question your version of events, including friends, neighbors, coworkers, whomever. You have successful relationships with people who believe your distortions of reality. And that’s fine. Having people blindly having faith in you works for you. It’s easy to cast aside people who would question your fabrications and have actually either seen or heard you in action… or had the opportunity to see your own words on paper. Those are the people you quit on time and time again.

PEW:

What does all this mean to you, you might ask? It means that reality is, you are the one with the problem. I may not be perfect, but the drama that you portray in your little stories is just not reality. Wake up, look around at the faces around you….anybody look familiar? I didn’t think so.

LM:

You have your sister, who is “there” for you because she provides you what? MONEY. Oh, that, and you can’t function without having someone there to help you. That’s why you spend all of the time you do at your parents and having your sister around. You can’t handle life on your own. I hope her rent is worth the risk involved, as Gloria said. Think about it… how often are you actually ALONE with the children… one-on-one (or two as it were)? Probably NEVER at this point, because you can’t handle them on your own, either… so much so that you would risk exposing them to the potential consequences of the next backslide by your sister.

Thinking of the children? You’re not really, PEW. Just keeping them as your last weapon against “big, bad LM.” Very sad for them.

They’ll see some day. I hope that you’re working now on the answers to the questions that are sure to come from them. I know I am.

She doesn’t. She hasn’t. She won’t.  To be continued…