We’re Gonna Have a Big Party Up at the Courthouse!
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Well, the Psycho-SIL will have to testify eventually. She’ll probably lie through her teeth, but I loaded enough stuff into this one to make sure she has to at least make an effort to substantiate her claims of rent payments to PEW. Further, I have asked her to provide appropriate documentation to demonstrate that she is moving out when she claims to be (rental agreements, new address, etc.).
The past two subpoena efforts were an unfortunate matter of poor timing, though they would never believe that. I had her served the day before each “event” because that was the day-of or day-after conferencing with my attorney. With a new hearing date in August, I figured that they might be expecting that I was doing this “last-minute” thing on purpose, so I advised my server-person to make a point of doing it right away to avoid any 11th-hour dodging on the part of Aunt DUI. He did just that and it apparently provoked PEW to write me… twice.
LM,
Why are you continually sending subpoenas to my sister? She is moving out July 1st thanks to you!! What exactly are you trying to do? If her banks statements are relavant then so are DW’s bank statements. I hope you are checking with your attorney before you are firing off these subpoenas. All the years you have known Psycho-SIL….has she ever been overflowing with money??? what are you expecting to find? do you seriously think she has paid more than what I’ve shown at the conferences? If anything it’s LESS and I will show that on Aug. 7th. I do not know why you are even messing with the meager child support you currently pay….what is your problem?? you are either really stupid or really CRAZY. You are jeapardizing my job….you are harrassing my sister…..WHY? Get a job.
~PEW
Well, DW’s bank statements won’t be relevant because she doesn’t pay me rent, which is why Aunt DUI’s bank statements are relevant. Yes, I seriously think that she’s paid more than the approximately $265/month they’re both claiming to have been paying. Mostly, that is due to at least 2 prior instances where PEW said “$600/month” and part of the reason we came to an agreement prior to the last child support hearing in the Fall of 2007. As for her “overflowing with money” comment, I submit the entire email from 2005 (Threats from Psycho-SIL), from which comes the following excerpt comes (written to me by Aunt DUI)…
….I finally settled my lawsuit on Monday. Suffice to say that with pain & suffering, after my attorneys fees have been taken out, I won’t have to worry about money for the rest of my life….
So, my answer to PEW would be an unequivocal, “YES, I sure do.” Do I really believe that Aunt DUI is rich beyond her wildest dreams? No, I don’t, but that’s what she has presented in her email. Aunt DUI isn’t moving out because of me, she is moving out so as to assist PEW in her hiding the rental income and avoid having it be part of the child support order. Of course, this time, I will do what is necessary to ensure that she stays out of the house and not move back in once the child support order is set.
Her first email (to which I didn’t respond) was followed by a second one… not an unusual occurrence…
LM,
I haven’t inconvenienced your family and friends AT ALL in the past 5 years….you have caused so many problems for the people close to me. I am calling [my attorney] on monday, my sister is so upset. You’re going to see how embarassing and hurtful it is when you’re loved ones are dragged into a hearing that has NOTHING to do with them. Make sure [your brother] and DW and your landlord etc….are ALL available all day on Aug. 7th ok?? We’re gonna have a big party up at the courthouse.
~PEW
More delusional thinking if she believes that her antics over the course of the last 5-years haven’t inconvenienced my friends and family. If her sick, substance-abusing sister weren’t such a huge part of the children’s daily lives… if she didn’t live with PEW… if she didn’t periodically inject herself into our proceedings… if it wasn’t RELEVANT… she wouldn’t be receiving subpoenas from me. My subpoena is rooted in issues that are directly relevant to the matter at hand. If she wants to spend money on subpoenas for people who have no direct relevance to the matter at hand, that’s her problem and unnecessary expense. It wouldn’t be the first time she would incur lots of legal expenses over nothing.
I think that PEW is afraid that she’ll be really exposed (again). I think Aunt DUI is afraid that she’ll also be exposed (again).
My purposes are quite simple:
- Show the court that PEW is a deliberate liar, income hider, false swearer to the court (again). This isn’t about the money because the actual “take” I could obtain, even at the $600/month figure, is small.
- Establish a pattern of behavior that dates back to 2005 with Aunt DUI moving out in advance of a child support order… and then moving back in after the order is in place… thereby forcing me to let it go or engage in additional expense to pursue it.
- Get Psycho-SIL out of the house and make it permanent. And if this exercise doesn’t do it, then I’ll be left with no choice but to move to modify the custody agreement to give me custody of the children or to prohibit Aunt DUI from living with the children, babysitting the children, driving the children anywhere no matter who is in the car… anything. Her untreated bi-polar disorder combined with her ongoing substance abuse problems make her a clear and present danger to the children (and the rest of the general public).
June 30th, 2009 at 2:12 pm
I would love to come to court for the party against PEW. Is she going to subpoena everyone that reads your site too?
June 30th, 2009 at 2:46 pm
I wanna come too!!
June 30th, 2009 at 4:40 pm
M good luck with this one mate as always I am praying for you , just one thing and i know its probably not intended but we Bi Polar sufferers arent all bad, the way you word it quite often makes it look like we are dangerous ( when its obvious psil has issues that make her dangerous these are more likely personaility than the fact she is BP1 or BP2 )
June 30th, 2009 at 5:20 pm
I’ve been very clear about Psycho-SIL’s condition and other issues. She is an untreated, diagnosed bipolar with more than a decade’s history of substance abuse issues which exacerbate her situation (and everyone else’s).
Psycho-SIL: is dangerous… with no disrespect meant to any other bi-polar sufferer.
June 30th, 2009 at 9:45 pm
Looking forward to sending you another article soon. PEW alert: I don’t know if you use the exact content of the emails from PEW, but I would strongly suggest rewording to avoid two different kinds of legal hassles. But I am sure you know that.
Randi Kreger
July 1st, 2009 at 3:17 am
Good luck on the day of court. I will say a prayer for you and the boys!
Also, as for “no disrespect” comment, I really want you to know that I believe you. None taken dearheart…your Psycho-SIL, untreated, is very dangerous…to herself and others.
God Bless…
July 1st, 2009 at 11:57 am
PEW’s strategy of chaos may actually be a good one in this case if it pushes the judge to a point of frustration where he will want to cover both ears and say NA NA NA NA NA NA NA.
Faced with this chaos of multiple witnesses and extended timeframes/court time, over a number that has minimal impact on the result, the judge is just as likely to tell the attorney’s in chambers prior to any actual hearing:
- he is “inclined” to “believe” that “helping out” her troubled sister, coupled with her sister’s inconsistent track record of living there (including presently), MAY NOT constitute income that would have a material impact on this case. If you push, unless you have a signed lease and cancelled checks, you are not going to get anything beyond what they have claimed. And possibly nothing, if upon further reflection he/she decides this is more a temporary accomodation among family members and not a landlord/tenant situation.
- DW and his family are not relevant and unless PEW’s attorney has incontrovertable documentation of significant hidden income on your part he/she does not want to hear from any of these witnesses.
Then the lecture…..he/she will not participate in either fishing expeditions or contribute to the acrimonious assault of these two parties on each other by dragging all of these other people into their dysfunctional hell. Furthermore the attorney’s should know better than to bring all this stuff into his/her courtroom when they know darn well that the impact on the result is minimal — this should be settled out of the courtroom. So stop all the nonsense, send the witnesses home, get down to the guideline calculation and settle this case.
Just a guess and without knowing the judge’s reputation or his perception of the two attorney’s maybe it is a long shot. That said it is very consistent with the type of stuff I witnessed over the 5 years or so I spent going in and out of our family court.
They DO NOT want to get into details in court, everyone is lying, both parties are idiots, and they don’t give a rat’s ass about what is fair as long as they can force some kind of settlement….preferably increasing the award one way or the other so they do better on their federal performance measures.
July 1st, 2009 at 12:35 pm
“They DO NOT want to get into details in court, everyone is lying, both parties are idiots, and they don’t give a rat’s ass about what is fair as long as they can force some kind of settlement….preferably increasing the award one way or the other so they do better on their federal performance measures.”
This is exactly right!
So many parties to divorce and post-divorce modifications never get this. They continue on, believing that the court is about what’s “fair”, that they will get their “day in court” and be able to “tell their side”.
Then they come away feeling awful and ripped off and stomped on… and can never figure out that their agenda and the court’s agenda did not match and never ever will.
July 1st, 2009 at 1:34 pm
I would agree. However, my main motivation is not about the paltry sum that her alleged rent will yield. It’s about getting her out of the house… this time… permanently.
Truth be told, I don’t think this will do it and I will be forced to petition the court for full custody with a goal of amending the custody arrangement to prohibit Psycho-SIL from living with the children, driving anywhere with the children as passengers (regardless of who is with them), or babysitting the children alone at any time.
July 1st, 2009 at 5:19 pm
Ditto on the “both parties are lying” part. We just got done a hearing.
Although child abuse is WELL DOCUMENTED, the judge said he felt that perhaps I’d put the doctors, counselors, ER people, specialists, etc. who documented the abuse to lie? HELLO?
The facts never got out. Settlement: I took the kids for appropriate medical care which exposed the abuse, and I lost custody.
In fact, they actually said that I abused my own kids in order to frame him? WTH. In addition, I’ve been ordered to not call CPS while he has custody. AMAZING.
Randi also brings up a good point….I also got sued for character defamation. Why? Because I told the truth to the professionals. Be careful.
Wishing you luck with your date in court….not expecting justice though. I think the justice fairy has died…..
July 24th, 2009 at 12:57 am
Sorry to but in but…Vamomma: are you still blogging? I was a faithful reader and can’t get to you any more. Missing your writing.