What I really like is the underlying sense of humor that they display. I mean, sometimes when you are dealing with a PE, what else can you do, except give yourself a quick chuckle?

Far be it from them to EVER get up off their asses and actually support themselves.

I must agree… #2 does the trick for me too.

And DW — I feel you. PEW tries to convince herself we only stay together so we won’t get told, “I told you so” by everyone. I’m married to the man yet she still refers to me as “the girlfriend.” It’s too hard for her to handle the fact that yes, we do have a healthy loving relationship.

my parents waged an awful custody battle from the time i was 12 until about 17. my mom had many times claimed she just wanted to “give us up” but when the time came she never would - she must much too dependent on the alimony and child support - and way too lazy and entitled to work. finally she met some guy and a few short months later, poof! they were gone. she dropped me off at my normal dad’s and took off - abandoning me at the most critical time of my life. still, as selfish as she was (and probably still is), it was probably the most decent thing she’s ever done for me. that was 7 years ago and i’m finally happy.

well enough rambling.. i really just wanted to show you guys some love. the new tagline is hilarious, but my favorite will always be #2 “I’m Not Happy until You’re Not Happy” - so true!

Although not on topic, my favorite line of the whole post is “I just wanted a simple divorce and I wanted it to be as amicable as humanly possible, regardless of what you believe.” It’s just another phrase from the PEW handbook, but I think they all say it.

PEW translation- We will get along as long as you agree to everything I want, even if you don’t agree with it.”

So, pretty much the only times daughter was ever allowed to call Dad was when he was being commanded to scold her.

Needless to say, I always stuck to “we can talk about it next time you come to Dad’s” rather than dole out the telephonic discipline.

Also, love how she told LM to find someone 10 years younger, I guess that was divine intervention! He found me! Yay!

This is common among many psycho exes and doesn’t even require the cover of BPD. They are unhappy but refuse to examine why they are truly unhappy. It always boils down to: “It’s not MY fault, I’m unhappy. It must be yours!” My DH’s PEW always wanted more, more stuff, a bigger house, more space, more money… But none of it made her happy. Because of that she’s gone through 2 marriages and a live-in boyfriend and the destruction of those relationships always lies with the men… Yet, my husband and I have managed to make our marriage work 4 times as long as theirs did. And while our actual relationship with each other is still only half the length of theirs, we’ve broken up about 6 times fewer in the same timespan.

At a certain point, I almost hope she never realizes exactly what the real problem is. DH says it’s because I’m too nice. If she ever realizes, fully realizes, what she’s done, it would probably devestate her. But I may be applying normal human emotions and reactions onto a different species all together.