The Psycho Ex Wife

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Outside of the obvious disappointment in not having my children with me for Christmas 2006, we did have a wonderful time. I managed to maintain a happy face throughout the festivities and looked forward to my next scheduled custody weekend with my children.

I awoke on Christmas Day and at some point checked my email to find the following:

(12/25/2006, 3:32AM) PEW:

You are unbeliveable…….I don’t believe for one second that you didn’t have this planned all along. The kid’s are not upset with me….they know I’ve been sick for the past 3 days….they know I couldn’t drive out there……you’re a really disturbed individual….and a terrible terrible father. The fact is that you didn’t want the kids….once again….you had the opportunity to spend “meaningful time” with them….but you just don’t want it. It’s very sad for them…….sad that you cancelled Christmas on them….and they don’t even care…..they’d rather be with me….that’s really really sad. You need to get to a psychiatrist….as soon as possible….I don’t know what the treatment is for a sociopath….maybe some medication and some psychotherapy…….you need help LM….you’re a sick person….and everyone knows it but you.

Our commentary: As my history unfolds on this blog, you will see the exasperating life I’ve lived and wonder why I stayed as long as I did. Obviously, I’ve made some mistakes in my life and to say this one was major would be an understatement of epic proportions.

I will draw your attention to the delusional rantings. Notice the revisionist history. I “planned” this all along. Again, her contention is that I had the foresight to anticipate her custodial interference with my magic powers or ESP and it is I who made her do what she did by some unseen force. Notice how, out of nowhere, she was suddenly sick. This is because she fears I will take action and now she needs to create an alibi, a justification for doing what she did, just in case I follow through.

The BPDs failure to accept responsibility for anything is another common characteristic. Obviously, they will go to any length to rewrite history to suit their stories. Worse than that - they believe their truths. The projection is textbook. Their self-importance is textbook. The viciousness with which the BPD will attempt to tear you down psychologically is limitless. There is no boundary that they will not violate.

I go back into low-contact mode.

(12/26/2006, 12:57PM) PEW:

It would be very nice if you picked the boys up today. I’ve been very sick…..no fun for them. I’m going back to the Dr. today hopefully. I can have the Dr. call you to prove I was on anti-biotics last week. You really need to stop being spiteful to me and just do the right thing for them.

Only problem with that offer is that I have to work. I can’t just cut and run at her whim, though that is her expectation. That is one of her many entitlements.

(12/28/2006, 12:27AM) PEW:

would you like to meet tomorrow night in [Exchange Point]?? or as usual….you don’t want the extra time with them?? I bet you’re trying to figure out how you can get out of having them all summer too?? this should be good!! God forbid you actually be a father to S9 and S6 instead of [DW's children]. That’s it right….you and DW didn’t want all four at the same time….too much for the “parents of the year”?? unbelievable LM!!!

Again, she sounds exactly like a 6-year old. Oddly, she hurls a barrage of insults at me while expecting me to again, drop everything and run to take the children off of her hands, so I treat her like one…

(12/28/2006, 12:53PM) LM:

If you ask nicely and without all of the disgraceful, disgusting viciousness, I’ll be more than willing to answer your email.

(12/28/2006, 2:34PM) PEW:

do you want to meet tonight or what?

(12/28/2006, 2:36PM) LM:

I think since you destroyed yet another holiday for the boys and me, we should meet at the gas station on [road close to my home]. I already drove to [Exchange Point] once. What do you think about meeting there? ~LM

(12/28/2006, 3:36PM) PEW:

I didn’t do anything…..

#1 I was VERY sick…not a little sick, I offered to give you a Dr’s note. That’s all I can do.

#2 I offered to let you pick them up on Saturday…a day early. You were busy.

#3 What were you doing on Christmas Eve anyway that you couldn’t get them earlier than 5pm that could possibly be more important than spending Christmas with your children?

#4 All the times you made me drive an additional 3 hours, just to satisfy your desire for vindiction…and you are insensed that I wasn’t going to drive on Christmas Eve.

Do you want to get your kids tonight or not? In [Exchange Point]?

(12/28/2006, 3:46PM) PEW:

I’m going back to court….in [A Different] County. I’m not putting up with this abuse for another 13 years…..I’m just not. If you don’t let me know by noon….I’m not going to drive at all…not even tomorrow……I still have a fever…..I am allowed to be sick and I can prove I’m sick…..psycho.

I agree to meet and pick up the boys at 8PM that evening and we have Christmas on December 29th and make it through the weekend. After returning them to her on New Year’s Day, I make plans to file a petition against her for Contempt of Court.

• For custodial inteference for failing to meet me at the required exchange point so that I could enjoy my Christmas holiday and winter break with my children.
• Failing to follow the court order and have the children enrolled in a licensed or otherwise certified childcare facility as agreed in a prior order.

To be continued… Part IV