The Psycho Ex Wife

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Our commentary: Surprisingly, PP the bipolar alcoholic, using PEW’s email account from PEW’s home decides to step in to defend little sister, exhibiting the same characteristics (BPD is often co-morbid with bipolar disorder). The following is little more than the characteristic insult barrage, peppered with more distorted realities, that are a part of the entire family’s regular recurring antics. I don’t reply to that nutcase. She is allegedly a paralegal at a family law firm. In her mind, that makes her a top-flight attorney.  Continuing from Part I…

(12/23/2006, 1:46AM) PP:

LM, It’s PP. I showed the court order to the family law attorneys at the firm I work at and they said that the judge was not clear in regards to exchanges for holidays. You and PEW can both have any interpretation that you want but I can assure you that if you go back to court for “clarification”-since YOU were the one to move out of state and continually lied to the judge, over and over again, it will go against you. PEW will NOT be at the [Exchange Point] on Sunday and you can show up at her door with the police if you want but there is nothing in the court order saying the police can do anything to her in any way.

If you want to be mad at anyone, be mad at your lawyer for not having the sense to ask the judge to spell it out PEW’s not keeping you from the boys, she just isn’t driving on a “holiday”-she is perfectly fine with driving her next scheduled turn. You can try to jam your OPINION down her throat like it’s law, as usual, but it still doesn’t make it TRUE.

If I recall, several weeks ago she went out of her way to drive to be nice, when it wasn’t her turn, and this is how you repay her, as usual. If these matters go back to court, we will bring up how you were non-compliant several weeks ago and made the boys drive HOURS longer than they had to just to spite PEW when you were in [Paternal Grandmom's] state. THAT IS crystal clear in the court order.

Also, your insistence in moving S6 from a loving, caregiver-again, just to mess with PEW, when it’s CLEARLY in S6’s best interests to stay with [neighbor], will go against you badly-and just wind up costing you more money. We’ll also bring up how S9 works himself into a state of such anxiety when he’s going to your home for the weekend that we don’t know what to do for him. 48hrs of being weighed, measured and harassed continually about his weight sure sounds like a good time for an 8year old. Maybe if you’d just shut up about it, it would work itself out.

I know you feel like you had some kind of victory in court but the judge gave you the absolute MINIMUM she had to in every way. If your lawyer is telling you that you have any grounds on any of the above situations, I suggest that she doesn’t know what she’s talking about and she just wants to continue to bleed you financially even though you have a losing case.

Stop harassing my sister because we are not going to deal with your crap for the next 13yrs until S6 reaches 18. If you thought [PEW's Attorney] made a fool of you and DW in court the last time, trust me, we will get somebody even tougher for the next round if you INSIST on continuing the nit-picking and harassment of my sister in this manner. This is the reason you two divorced, remember?

You are a disgrace as a father or you never would have moved to [Home] state in the first place. All of your bull**** is your attempts to salve your own conscience about that decision. Let the boys get on with their lives, would you? In the least traumatic way possible at this point? You NEVER put the boys interests/feelings/concerns first-just what YOU think is best for them.

Truly, I’m starting to think you are severely unbalanced based on the continual hounding of PEW via phone calls, emails, name-calling etc. I mean, I always thought you were unbalanced but I think you are so bitter over the divorce you have pushed yourself over the edge trying to make PEW PAY for leaving you and taking your SONS. Pull yourself together, LM. There is nothing more pathetic than a desperate man grasping at straws. It’s really very, very sad. I better not hear that DW is harassing my sister ever again or she’ll be in court for defamation of character, harassment etc. You’re right, we’re done communicating about this. If you really want to see your sons for this visit, you better let PEW know when you’ll be HERE to pick them up.

Merry Christmas. PP

Our commentary: (From DW) - PP’s letter is a complete sham. The amount of projection, another favorite amongst BPD’s, is astounding. You can pretty much read the letter back to yourself and interchange everything she says we have done and know that they are the ones that committed the act. For instance, weighing S9 and telling him he’s going to weigh 300 lbs. and be a diabetic.

It’s often frustrating because you want to set them straight, but doing so only gives them the attention they are looking for, and so unfortunately we have to let things go. What is incredibly funny though, is that this year during the court hearings which we will touch on later, PP gets called out by the judge and PEW admits that she is a liar and has no idea what she is saying. I’m thinking of wrapping the transcript and putting it under PP’s tree

(From LM) - I was really anxious about the prospect of not having my children for my first Holiday season since 2003. We had plans already set to host a neighborhood open house that very night Christmas Eve. Children were invited and we were looking forward to an amazing night of festivities.

We realized that she probably wasn’t bluffing, but that we needed to go out to the exchange point anyway. If nothing else, I was resigned to the reality that if she didn’t show up, I would file contempt-of-court charges for custodial interference (among other court ordered items she was violating) and I needed to have evidence that I was there.

We were at the exchange point at 5PM. We waited 30-minutes because 5:30PM was our “drop-dead” time to head back in time to host our neighborhood company. I was not going to drive the additional 2-hours time, adding 4-hours to our trip, and blow the commitments we had made. Mind you, I had been burned several times with failures to meet in the past, driven the full ride just to have the time with my children, and I had to draw the line somewhere. I decided that Christmas holiday would have more impact on the judge than any other regular weekend in terms of showing PEW’s unmitigated contempt for the court. I went home very sad, but did my best to make the best of my holiday with DW and her two children.

To be continued… Part III