The Psycho Ex Wife

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I use the term “conclusion” loosely.  This is a recurring theme and I have no expectation that it won’t be brought up again at some point in the future.  For this round, it is the conclusion because there is nothing more to say on the subject to the PEW.  To catch up, start with Part A.

In the years prior to discovering low-contact methods, I played a significant role in the escalation of these discussions.  In the years since, by employing the methods learned (and written about), I have restored an amazing level of sanity to our lives, if not hers.  As always, I’d just as soon not engage in discussions with her about anything.  When you have children, no-contact is not really possible.  This will be one of those times where I will make an attempt to discuss the matter with her and set her straight on reality.  Of course, I go into this knowing it is extremely likely a wasted effort.

There are two different discussions which take place.  One is a phone discussion with the PEW.  Two is a discussion about food, health, and fitness with the children, who are obviously aware at this point that PEW is making an issue out of things.

The discussion with PEW follows.  In an effort to keep it brief and (hopefully) readable, we’ll go the bullet-point method.

My main points:

• I let her know up-front that the conversation needed to stay on-topic or I would hang-up the phone.  Though a couple of tangential issues were offered, I was able to quickly redirect her back to the topic at-hand.
• I let her know that despite whatever the children may have been telling her, the accusations were false, unfounded, and I laid out for her what our typical meals consist of (previously documented in this series), acknowledging that she “only had my word that it was the truth” and that there was nothing more I could or would provide her on the issue.
• I let her know that it was my fervent desire that she file the petition.  I wanted the opportunity to go before the judge and see her reaction when she “trotted out the ridiculous notion that the children weren’t getting enough to eat and have her simultaneously explain how it is even possible with one child slightly overweight and one child significantly overweight.”
• I told her that her instructing S1 to buy lunch whenever he felt like it while on my custodial time was “reprehensible” and that she should only ensure that there is enough money in the account to cover her custodial time, while also pointing out that most of the school lunches are garbage anyway.

Her main points:

• When the kids tell her that they aren’t getting enough to eat, should she not believe them?  (My answer was: YES!  As I don’t take everything that they tell me as completely accurate, she shouldn’t either.  They are kids and will often attempt to manipulate us in an effort to get what they want when they want it.)
• I need to take some responsibility for the situation.  (My answer to that was NO!  I feed them normal meals.  I don’t obsess about their weight.  I don’t restrict their diets or snacks.  And the responsibility for their poor eating habits… what they eat… how much they eat… when they eat… and their over-snacking is 100% her responsibility.)
• The kids get plenty of exercise when they are with her including going for walks and playing with friends, playdates, they swim at her parents during the summer, etc.  (This is not entirely true in that the frequency with which she claims they get “plenty of exercise” is overstated according to the kids. They spend a big chunk of their time watching TV and playing videogames at home.  When they go on playdates and play with neighbors, they often are… watching TV and playing videogames.  I did not say this to her - this is just for the readers’ info.)
• There are “plenty of successful fat people in the world who have great jobs, gorgeous wives, families, money, etc.  (I told her that this reality matters not to me.  I told her that barring a contributing medical condition that has been ruled out in both of our boys, that being overweight was not necessary to achieve those results and very likely will cause potential future health problems.  She only needs to look within her own family to see that.)
• She reiterated her contention that in the summer of 2007, I “starved” the 17-pounds off of S1.  (I reiterated to her was patently untrue and previously explained that his participation in swim team, summer camp, and normal daily play activities were completely responsible for his weight loss.  I added his sense of pride and his noticing how much better he felt by summer’s end.)

The discussion was, at times, animated as she would toss in her ridiculous accusations.  I did call her an “asshole” once and a “big fat liar” for doing so.  Childish, yes.  This was certainly wrong, if still true, and is the risk one takes when choosing to break low-contact.  Worthy of note:  She continued to offer up her opinions on a variety of issues surrounding the central one without ever offering a shred of suggestion as to what should be done differently… only that they should be done differently.  All the time she does this.

The conversation was over after we each said our peace.  (more…)

During a lengthy discussion about health, fitness, and food with the children on Monday night, both boys were asked to be 100% honest when answering questions as we learned together what we were supposed to be eating and how much.  No one was in trouble.  No one was going to be punishing anyone.  I wasn’t going to be calling mom and “giving her the business.”  We’re going to learn about this stuff together and in this house.

The following question was asked:  When you go to McDonald’s - what do you typically order for your meal?

What S1 told me nearly had me falling out of my chair.

• A DOUBLE QUARTER-POUNDER WITH CHEESE.
• LARGE FRENCH FRIES.
• LARGE COLA

Complicating matters (and I’ve mentioned this before) - The Psycho Ex-Wife allows our 10-year old son to finish whatever S2 doesn’t finish of his meal.  We brought it up on the website.  Just his meal alone is 1,550 calories, most of it from fat.  It’s about the entire caloric intake for an entire day for a boy his age (nevermind the health implications and lack of nutritional value).

I can’t even eat a double quarter-pounder with cheese.

From the Deprivation Series.

As promised, I continue from Part B of the “Depriving the Children of Nutrition” Series with what I call The Nutrition Petition.

The prepared petition is as follows, with all of the “vital statistics and personal details” removed:

A. The Petitioner is asking for a modification of the existing order based on the following:

1. Currently the petitioner and the defendant share custody of the minor children
2. The Petitioner represents that the respondent is harming the minor children, particularly S1 physically and emotionally by severely limiting his food intake. S1 (dob xx/xx/xx) is 10 years old, he is approximately 5’3” and weighs approximately 155-160 lbs. S2 (dob xx/xx/xx) is 7 years old, he is approximately 4’ tall and weighs approximately 70 lbs. The children report to the Petitioner that they are fed exactly the same portions and they state “we are always hungry at Dad’s”. The Petitioner can only report on the calorie intake of the children while they are with the Respondent based on the children’s reports. The Petitioner feels it is approximately 1000 calories per day, which is inadequate for normal growth and development for children their age. The Petitioner also avers that the Respondents undue restrictions on the children’s diet are having the “opposite” effect on them, since when they return to her home they are ravenous and eat constantly. The Petitioner feels that the deprivation of calories is causing them emotional harm and negatively affecting their weight and body image.
3. The Petitioner represents that since she filed a contempt petition dated 7/16/07 the respondent continues to subject the minor child, S1 to continual emotional harm. In the Petitioners, Petition for Contempt dated 7/16/07 she states the following: “The Respondent has repeatedly admonished 8 year old S1 for his weight over the past three years and is obsessed with the fact that eight-year-old S1 is overweight to the point where the child has lost significant weight over the past month while in the Respondent’s custody. The child stated on June 30th, 2007 while on a visit with his mother at a hotel in [LM's home-state] that “I am too fat, look at me, it’s disgusting, Dad is going to help me get into shape”. During this visit, the Petitioner observed that S1 has decreased his intake of food substantially to the point where the Petitioner finds it unhealthy. Eight year-old S1 also stated “I can’t lose my fitness while I’m with you because you are not fit Mom”. The Petitioner, Mother of this child feel that at eight years old, the Respondent is jeopardizing the “Health and Welfare and Emotional” state of eight-year-old S1 due to the Respondent’s with weight. The Petitioner feels that there are much better, healthier ways of helping S1 achieve an ideal weight without making him feel bad about himself. The Petitioner feels that the Respondent will be responsible for driving S1 to an “Eating Disorder” and further emotional damage if he is subjected to further criticism about his weight.”
4. The Petitioner represents that the Respondent testified to the Honorable Judge Contempt that he was relocating to [custody-state], so that the order would be modified to an equal custody arrangement. The Petitioner represents that the respondent still resides in a 4-bedroom home in [home-state] for two weeks per month and spends the other two weeks in an apartment over a garage in [His-Town] while he has custody of the children. The Respondent testified to the Honorable Judge Contempt that he was relocating to [custody-state], when in fact he had no intention of doing so.

The Petitioner respectfully requests that Honorable Court modify the existing Order of Court as follows:

B. The Petitioner wishes to be granted temporary Sole Legal and Primary Physical Custody of the minor children, S1 and S2 with visitation time to the Respondent. The petitioner request to modify the Order of Court as follows:

1. Mother wishes for the Honorable court to intervene on the children’s behalf to ensure that Father follows an adequate diet for the children.
2. Mother wishes to be granted rights to all decision making regarding the “Health Safety and Welfare” of the minor children with objective consideration to Father’s written opinion.
3. Mother will have primary physical custody of the children temporarily until such time as the court deems the Father able to make sound decisions regarding their welfare.
4. Mother requests that in light of the fact that Father is not truly relocating to [custody-state], the Honorable Court have him move to [PEW-town], where the children attend school. Mother avers that the rents in [PEW-town] are considerably cheaper than those in [His-town] and perhaps Father could use the additional monies to buy food for the children. It is Mother’s belief that the children could continue their relationships with their friends and would benefit immensely by being in their “home” town for the entire month.

The Petitioner does pray and request that the Honorable Court will grant the Modification as stated herein.

This is the 5th day of March 2009

I, PEW, state that the above statements are true and correct to the best of my knowledge. I understand that false statements herein are made subject to penalties relating to unsworn falsification to authorities.

Amazing.  In an effort to TRY and keep myself from droning on and on and on, I’ll try going with bullet points.

• Section A1: This is about the only coherent and factually accurate part of the entire petition.
• Section A2: This is completely baseless.  Not only is it factually incorrect, it’s entirely fantasy that is predicated upon the alleged reports that the children “are hungry.” PEW is calculating the children’s “caloric intake” based solely upon the children telling her what they want to in order to get what they want from her.  She reports that the children are “ravenous and eat constantly” - which clearly demonstrates her complete lack of control of the situation in her home on this issue (let alone all of the others).  How could anyone read this and take it seriously?
• Section A3: This is a cut-and-paste of the petition she filed when she details she filed it.  The petition was dismissed as groundless and yet - she is putting the same thing the judge has already ruled on in front of her again.  Also, it has no basis in fact.
• Section A4: Aside from the fact that this section represents a “dig” at my current living arrangements in custody-state (formerly known as work-state), it is also factually inaccurate.  We live in a rented cottage.  It is a two-story stone building.  The bottom of it is a MASSIVE 4-car garage that is deep enough to fit no fewer than 8-vehicles, with additional storage space.  Over the top of that garage, is a 2-bedroom, 1-bath apartment with eat-in kitchen and large living room.  As for issue with my overall living arrangements, they have nothing to do with the purpose of the petition.  It’s obviously out of place and represents her complaining about not being in control of my life.  I represented to the Judge that I met the terms of the prior custody arrangement, which was that if I established employment and residence within reasonable proximity of where the PEW lived, I would be granted 50/50 custody after a short hearing.  I did not represent to the Judge that I was “relocating” to custody-state.  In fact, I recall telling the Judge that even if I wanted to sell our residence in home-state, we couldn’t due to the awful economic conditions, particularly in the real estate market.  The Judge did not require that I sell my home-state residence in order to obtain custody - only that I establish employment and a residence, which I did.
• Section B1: Even if the judge could, how is the court going to ensure that I feed the children a proper diet?  Aside from the reality that her claims are fabricated and impossible to prove (because my children eat a proper diet when they are with me) - she writes in section A that she has no control over what the children eat and how much they eat when with her.  She has 1 seriously overweight child and 1 child that has been packing on the pounds recently and is coming before the court to tell them that they aren’t getting enough to eat.  I… kid… you… not.
• Section B2: Can you hear me laughing at her “objective consideration?”
• Section B3: The court has already found that the father makes sound decisions regarding their welfare.  That’s why I’ve gotten 50/50 custody and she has already been threatened with a further erosion of her custodial time due to her repeated contempt issues.
• Section B4: She wants the court to order me to move closer to her.  Closer than the 8-miles (approximately) away I already reside from her.  Has anyone seen a bigger effort to control another ex-spouse’s life to such an extent?  She wants the court to order me to move to another town to be closer to her.  Not to mention, a number of those “friends” about whom S1 complains vigorously - I wouldn’t allow them to play with or into my home.

Further…

“I, PEW, state that the above statements are true and correct to the best of my knowledge. I understand that false statements herein are made subject to penalties relating to unsworn falsification to authorities.”

This is at least the 7th petition she’s filed that is rife with “unsworn falsification to authorities.”  In no prior case has she ever been sanctioned for this.  I don’t expect, if she follows through with filing this petition, that she will be sanctioned for this one, either.  Of course, we can always hope.

If I thought that there were any grounds on which to file a petition of my own AND have it be successful, I would.  She is beyond sick and I can’t do anything to further take the children away from being brought up in such a disastrous environment with a mother who is so clearly mentally ill.  I live in daily fear that she will some day snap and do them immediate, and much more serious harm.  What a great way to live.

As the kids health and welfare are of serious concern to me, I broke down after 2-days of thinking about it and decided to place a phone call.  I obviously went into this knowing it’s a waste of breath, but decided if there was even a remote chance she would “wake up and smell the coffee” on this topic, it would be worth the try.  Look for that in Part D when I get around to it.  I’m sure I’ll have more pressing matters when the reaction to the news that I have been laid-off is communicated (which it will have been by the time this post launches).

See: CRAP - It’s What’s for Dinner.

In Part A of the Deprivation Series… we only laid the foundation of the Psycho Ex-Wife’s latest round of complete kookiness.    She ramps it up a bit now, implying that the children deserve tastykakes instead of fruit… and on a less humorous front - details how she allows the children to “gorge themselves” while blaming me for it happening.  Sadly, I can picture her standing aside as they lay siege to her kitchen, destroying her food stores like locusts through a farmer’s field… like the Cookie Monster through a King-Sized chocolate chip…

………..

LM,

It’s not just S1, S2 is saying it too and supporting what S1 is saying about being often hungry. The worst part is on Sundays, they will practically knock me over to get to the kitchen and eat and eat. S1 has actually made himself throw up a few times. Do you get what I’m saying? that is a sign of a serious eating disorder. In addition, S2 wouldn’t have gained so much weight, if he wasn’t being deprived at your house. He was never like this before last October and after a few months of being with you every other week, he was coming to my house and gorging himself too. That tells me that the restrictions you put on food, seriously impact them to the point where they feel like they aren’t going to get enough…so they feel like they have to over-compensate at my house.

The petition is attached. I will have a Process server bring it to you next week, since you’re not giving me a choice. So not only do I have to worry about surgery….I have to miss MORE work just to make you do what you should be doing anyway.

~PEW

Aside from failing to identify the reality that the children are manipulating her, as they always have, into giving them whatever it is that they want at the moment, I am deeply disturbed by the fact that she:

• Takes everything that the children say (assuming she isn’t embellishing it) as completely accurate.
• That she allows them to allegedly push through her and go on an eating rampage when they arrive home to her on Sundays.
• That, at times, she sits idly by and allows S1 to eat so much, so fast, that he vomits.
• That she can describe the above scenario, create fiction in her head about what goes on at my house, and use that fiction to justify her allowing the children to do what she reports.
• It’s my fault (according to her).

This is unbelievable.  Or should I be saying that it’s entire believable?  I don’t respond… but I want to.

LM,

I really wish you would reconsider. You know the process….first a conference, then another evaluation, then hearing. All that because you can’t acknowledge that you may have to look at the situation a little more objectively and consider you may need to change some things on your end. An evaluations is going to cost us both about $1200…maybe more we haven’t had one in years. It totally kills me that you used to complain about your Dad keeping candy bars for himself and not sharing with you and your brothers and here you are doing the same thing!!! The kids said you give them grapes and then YOU eat Tastycakes?!?! What are you doing LM?

If I go to all the way up there, pay for a process server, take time off work, etc..etc….we are having an evaluation. It’s not like this is the only issue I have with you.

~PEW

OH MY GOD!!!  THEY EAT GRAPES AND YOU EAT A TASTYKAKE!!!  CALL CHILD PROTECTIVE SERVICES!!!  These are the types of people that our courts all over this country and our judges entertain with conferences, custody evaluations, restraining orders, and hearings.  This is where innocent people have to spend enormous amounts of money for the most bizarre, frivolous, completely unsupported allegations.  What a Goddamned waste.

I have to look at the situation more objectively means I have to look at it completely from her objective, agree with it, and then meet her demands.  She does this by using the same old, tired-ass tactic of threatening me with court.  I don’t fucking care anymore.  I don’t do anything that would warrant me getting in trouble, so her threats are empty.  All her threats mean is that I will be afforded the opportunity to watch her get her ass beaten by Judge Contempt again.

As for the story about my father - another great example of how PEWs twist things into an alternate reality which then becomes a reality all their own.  The story goes a little something like this… one time, just before Halloween, I was in my parent’s room when I shouldn’t have been and discovered a candy bar on my father’s bureau.  I couldn’t resist.  I ate it.  Not surprisingly, he discovered his candy bar missing, and when I was confronted, I lied about it.  “I didn’t do it!“  So, all of the boys became suspects.  When Dad threatened to take Halloween away from all of us, I finally confessed.

That’s it.  That’s the story.  Now, look at what happened to that story when it went through the PEW filter.  I want you all to realize that this is what normally happens to any story that involves the PEW. They go through the filter and what really happened in any situation comes out as something completely different.  Worse, she believes that alternate reality and no one will convince her that it happened any way other than the way she described it.  I’m not sure that most people not going through a similar situation can quite grasp how horrible this can be to the “normal” ex-spouse.  When I (and commenters and people on our forums) speak of reaching a point where we start to question our sanity and our own recollections of events - you better believe it.

Adding to the sick, twisted nature of this whole situation, comes the following email from the President of one of the local football teams.  You see, mixed among these emails, we were having a short discussion regarding S1 playing football and trying to figure out if we could make it happen.  I told PEW that I had not looked into any of the teams in either her area or my area yet.  She did… and, even while this entire discussion of the boys’ malnourishment was taking place - she forwarded the email from the League President…

Hello PEW,

Thank you for your interest in the [Local Football Team 1]. I am sorry to say the your son would not be able to play on any of our teams. Our maximum weight is 132-pounds and that level of play is with 13 and 14 year boys. I do know that the [Local Football Team 2] are in a different league than us and they may have something to accommodate you. You can check on their web site. Sorry again.

~Football President

Take a minute.  Read it again… I’ll wait.

Aside from the fact that only a complete buffoon would send that email while speaking about our children not getting enough to eat… the implications of what the League President says above never even registers with her.  (It will when I point it out when I speak to her.)

Our 10-year old son cannot play in the local football league because he is too heavy.  Our 10-year old son weighs nearly 160-pounds.  The league’s 13- and 14-year olds play at a maximum weight of 132-pounds. What does asshole do?  She finds out that he can play in the Catholic Youth League where “they play according to grade!” That’s wonderful.  If S1 plays in that league, he’s going to kill someone.

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Despite my promise to post the petition here, it’s too long.  So, you’ll have to wait one more day when I post “The Nutrition Petition.”

Unrelated to my recent job loss, the psycho ex-wife has chosen again to make the children’s weight and nutrition an issue.  Of course, this is my fault.  Her timing is uncanny.  I need this shit right now like I need another hole in my head.  It’s the same story on this issue, just a different month.

To see the history, you can read: Child Obesity Crisis Looms series. This is another chapter, I suppose.

It starts with the following email:

LM,

I also forgot to mention. S1 has expressed on MANY occassions the fact that he is allocated the same portions of food as S1 and he’s hungry ALOT at your place. I know you would LIKE him to be thin, but he’s not. He is large, always has been large and may always be large, however the one thing I will not allow you to do is to deprive him of nutrition that his body needs to grow….not to mention to give him enough fuel to get through a day. If you’re not sure how much “fuel” he needs to get through a day….consult with a nutritionist or the pediatrician. It sounds like when he comes to you, he’s living on about 900 calories a day. He needs about 2300 per day to function and grow. S2’s is 1300 per day…. I am going to start calling him everyday when he’s at your house and asking him what he was served. If this continues beyond next week, I will have no choice but to file a petition because I am not going to have you or your girlfriend malnourish our children….a) because your cheap and saving money on food and b) because you think he doesn’t deserve to eat because he’s heavy. Not going to have it.

~PEW

Let me be clear again about a few things:

• S1 is 10-years old and is back up to about 160-pounds. He is approximately 5′2″ tall. He is overweight by at least 30-pounds.
• S2 has been putting on some weight recently, but he is still height and weight proportionate. The weight gain is a bit sudden and it’s starting to show.
• We don’t obsess about food. We don’t obsess about weight. I can’t be anymore clear about this. All we do is talk to the children about health and fitness. Even that we do casually. We encourage exercise, which we often do together, and lately - they’ve been doing on their own, which is great!
• We all eat normal meals. Normal breakfast. Normal lunch. Normal dinner. Normal evening snack. If anything, they probably sometimes get slightly more than they should from time-to-time when with us. They definitely do not get less than they need.
• S1 would eat until someone physically restrained him if given the chance. S2 eats until he is full and stops.

That’s it. Normal stuff. Every day.  With my head still reeling from the events of that day, I simply ignored it.  Soon, there was a follow-up…

LM,

I figured you were going to ignore the email and after doing some research and discussion with people close to S1, I do believe I need to persue the issue. This has been ongoing for several years and is very serious and is impacting S1’s emotional well-being and self image.

Last year it was an email from Mrs. S1Teacher telling me that you refused to send him to school with a snack, resulting in my having to drop a cases of snacks off at school. This year it has resulted in my having to keep his lunch account full of money so that if he does not have an adequate lunch he can buy himself additional food. Two years ago, he starved off almost 10 lbs while he was under yours and DW’s care in the summer and was completely obsessed with his weight for months, refusing to eat and trying to skip meals. You are harming our son. SERIOUSLY. I have let you slide on many many things over the past year or so trying to give you the opportunity to show you are truly a good father, however this weight thing keeps rearing it’s ugly head.

If I don’t hear from you addressing the situation, I will have no other choice but to protect S1 by requesting a hearing. This is not something you have the option to ignore. You need to acknowledge that you need to educate yourself or deny it completely and that tells me that this is not something we can handle between the two of us.

~PEW

Pure insanity.  Right from the script comes the “everyone I’ve talked to is on my side” dialogue.

The situation she describes with his teacher simply did not happen the way she describes it. S1’s lunchbox is always packed with a sandwich, a bag of chips/pretzels, a fruit item, a small snack, and when I have them, a little Werther’s Original which I tell them is my “kiss” for them during the day. When I was informed that the class had a morning snack due to a late lunch, I immediately packed him a package of snack crackers or a nutrigrain bar.

In the summer of 2007, S1 was 8-years old and came to us weighing 147-pounds. We had him full-time that summer. While eating the same normal meals, he was on the local swim team which had vigorous 2-hour practices 4-nights per week plus competitions on Saturday. This was in addition to the normal daily activities that the all of the kids did. He went home at the end of that summer weighing 130-pounds. We didn’t set out to have him lose weight, it simply happened as a result of all of the exercise he was getting. He noticed the difference and probably has never been more proud of himself and thrilled with the way he looked and how he could keep up with everyone when playing games like tag or football. These details, by the way, had already been made known to her way back when. Incidentally, after returning to her as primary custodian at that time, by November, a period of 2-months, he was already back up to 154-pounds.

Finally, she admits something I suspected all along this year… something S1 has lied to me about. She has given him the green-light to purchase a lunch (from the awful menu) during my custodial time. What has been happening is that S1 has been buying lunch…

1. when is packed a lunch that he likes, meaning he is eating 2 lunches each day.
2. when he is packed a lunch that he doesn’t like, he is eating 1+ lunches by cherry-picking out the things he likes (usually the chips, the snack, and the fruit item) and then buying a school lunch.

This is simply alarming and accounts for his visually obvious rapid weight gain during this school year and S2 has probably been doing the same thing.  This is very upsetting to me that she has allowed this to go on.  When I suspected this was going on, there were several occasions where S1’s lunchbox would come back with his sandwich in it and I would ask him why… he would reply that he “just wasn’t hungry” and didn’t eat anything else.

Despite my serious concerns and a feeling that I need to try to address this situation with her out of concern for S1, I’m not in the right frame of mind.  I still ignore because there is nothing I can say to her that will change her position.

She follows up again…

LM,

I really really really don’t want to start another War over this whole food thing. If you don’t want to email, then call me on my cell to discuss. I have the petition done and I DO NOT want to file it, but I feel like I HAVE to. I know when you read it, you’re going to be upset and that is not the intention, however I can’t let this problem continue because if you could see how it is affecting them you would do the same.

~PEW

Right from the script - the threats of court action. Shocker.  She went as far as to prepare a petition to file for sole legal custody and primary physical custody of the children.  It is, as yet, unfiled.  This time, I choose to reply…

PEW,

There is nothing to discuss. Your allegations are unfounded and not worthy of the attention you seek. S1 eats regular, normal meals at home and is at no risk of “malnutrition” or “malnourishment.” I’m not sure what stories S1 may be telling you, but I can assure you that he suffers absolutely no shortage of food while at my home.

There is nothing more I can or will say on the subject.

~LM

In Part B, the allegations get more wacky on the food front and I will post the petition she has prepared.  I can’t begin to describe for you how frightening this situation is for me because there is nothing I can do about it.  I can’t control what she does.  I can’t control what she feeds them.  I can’t control what her brain conjures up to justify her insane rants.  The scariest part of this is she is missing the obvious - her excuse-making and justifications for his weight are ludicrous.  If something doesn’t change, he will have problems, maybe S2 as well.  All I can do is keep educating them, feed them properly when with me, and continue to encourage and participate in exercise and fitness activities with them.

This really sucks.