The Psycho Ex Wife

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Among the great many other things that occurred in the aftermath of PEW’s discovery of this site, comes another completely delusional text message - this one, from Aunt Drunkenslob (Psycho-SIL) and was unsolicited.  They just don’t know how to stop.

The Text, From Psycho-SIL, 8/24/2009, 8:31PM

I never thought u would stoop 2 this level.  I don’t even know who you are anymore.  I used 2 tell [pew] he would nevdr hurt the boys but those days r gone.

It’s short, thank Heavens for a 160-character limit, but chock full of bullshit, fueled by substance abuse and untreated mental illness.

“I never thought u would stoop 2 this level.”

“Stooping” to tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the entire, ugly, abusive, harassing, disgusting truth is something I imagine they all PRAYED I wouldn’t do.  But alas, I’ve done it.  At least I’ve given them the courtesy of not publicly naming them.  Apparently, within minutes of this site’s discovery, they took care of publicly naming themselves to others - friends, family, the kids, who knows who else - for yet some other inexplicably stupid reason.

My guess is that they counted on me “keeping” all of these sick, ugly occurrences secret - simply so that they could continue on unabated.  Reality is - since I have publicly shamed no one, I didn’t really do anything to anyone.  However, in their delusional belief that EVERYONE they tell, even within their own family, will believe none of it to be true - is the most bizarre part of this entire charade.  They may never say it to their faces… but if anyone in my family did a fraction of what I’ve shared here, I’d be wondering what the hell was wrong with them and making at least a small attempt to intervene.

I don’t even know who you are anymore.

She never did.  She never has.  She never will.  SIL needs serious help.  And it’s an absolute disgrace that this family hides her problems, behavior, sickness, and alcoholism and continues to let her self-destruct.  Worse, she’s going to hurt, maim, or kill someone.  It’s only a matter of time.  And then blood will not only be on her hands, but her family’s as well.  But… her family keeps bailing her ass out and totally ignoring just how sick she is.

That said, I know who she is.  You best believe this - every day these children are out of my custody - I pray that it isn’t their blood that ends up on her hands or anyone else’s in that family.

I used 2 tell [pew] he would nevdr hurt the boys but those days r gone.

No one gives a shit what she used to tell anyone.  I’m surprised with her substance abuse problems that she can even remember her name, let alone anything you alleged used to tell PEW about me.

Seriously - get some help before you kill yourself or worse - kill someone else.

Another of the Psycho-SIL Criminal Series…

Date: 9/11/2008, Thursday

Time: 11:23PM

Location: [Zippy's] Bar

Perpetrator: Psycho-SIL

Report Summary by Officer CS:

On Thursday, September 11th, 2008 at approximately 2323 hours, Officer [Coopersmith] observed a [perfect description of PEW's exact car] exit the parking lot for Zippy’s Bar, [address of Zippy's] onto northbound [Drunkenville] Road.  Said [PEW's Car] did not exit said parking lot using the driveway entrance/egress curb cut-out; instead, the vehicle drove down the sidewalk, off the curb, and onto the roadway. The vehicle was subsequently stopped and the operator arrested for DUI.  Arrested: Psycho-SIL, [PEW's Address]

Our commentary: Another middle-of-the-week drunken escapade for the Psycho-SIL.  For some inexplicable reason, this particular police station was reluctant to give me the level of detail that the other departments have provided to this point.  I had a lengthy and friendly discussion with the Sergeant about the “Right to Know Laws” and rather than press the issue - I thanked him for taking his time to discuss the matter with me.  He completely understood my concern when I described to him why I was after more detail - the children’s well-being is at risk due to her significant, long-term problems with substance abuse.  So is the general public’s.

Specifically, I wanted to know what the breathalyzer test revealed as my previous reports were mistaken and based upon the statute regarding DUI.  There is a very strong possibility that she blew higher, much higher than the .16 I previously stated.  Reviewing the documentation, she was guilty of the “highest rate of alcohol” that has a minimum threshold of .16. It’s called “.16+” and my money, given the level of intoxication on her previous arrests - is on the “plus.”

You’ll notice that she is driving PEW’s car and is reportedly living at PEW’s address.  So, with all of the frequent lying PEW does about Psycho-SIL’s alcoholism and not putting people at risk and “she hasn’t had a drink in 6-months” bullshit over and over and over again - PEW is letting her drive her only means of transportation.  She is letting a drunk drive her car to go to bars.  The same car that, if it’s involved in a deadly accident, will put her car, her home, but most importantly - the children’s living situation at great risk.  So much for the bullshit contention that Psycho-SIL would never put the children’s lives at risk or in jeopardy.

She ended up being found guilty and faced approximately $1,500 in fees and fines and was placed in a diversionary program that would reduce her license suspension from 1-year to the 2-months it was.  (If you’ll recall, she still drove with that suspended license.)  It was her “first offense.”  At least, the first she was officially caught offense.  I’m fairly certain that she drove drunk with a fair amount of regularity given the frequency of her actual arrests and citations - combined with my own personal observations and experiences dating back to the days of being married to the PEW.

I really wonder if her family is going to wake the hell up to this nonsense, step up, and get this girl the help she so desperately needs before she kills someone (including her nephews or nieces)?

Another of the Psycho-SIL Criminal Series…

Date: 11/16/2005, Wednesday

Time: 1:35AM

Location: [Jimmy's] Bar

Perpetrator: Psycho-SIL

Report Summary by Officer JS:

Police were called to Jimmy’s Bar by an employee, Scott [McBartender].  Scott reports that a customer, Psycho-SIL, made some inappropriate remarks to a bartender and was asked to leave.  Psycho-SIL became belligerent and refused to leave.  Psycho-SIL had to be carried from the bar in her chair.  Once outside Psycho-SIL refused to allow the bar to call her a cab and would not tell them her address.  Upon my arrival, I attempted to calm Psycho-SIL down and provide a way for us to get her home.  Psycho-SIL refused and kept going back to the dispute with the bartender.  Psycho-SIL said the only way she was leaving the bar parking lot was if I arrested her.  I explained that I did not want to arrest her, I wanted her to go home.  Psycho-SIL continued to be belligerent toward police and the bar employees.  Psycho-SIL refused to allow Sgt. C to obtain a ride for her.  She was also refusing to provide her correct address.  Pscyho-SIL repeated her request to be arrested and I complied.  Psycho-SIL was taken to headquarters and placed in a cell.  In her handbag I located a note with a phone number for [her brother] and called him.  He identified himself as her brother.  He called Psycho-SIL’s mother who agreed to come to HQ and pick her up.  I released Psycho-SIL to her mother with a citation for Public Drunkenness.

Supplemental Summary 12/13/2005 by officer JS:

A summary trial was held before Judge H.  Psycho-SIL was found guilty of Public Drunkenness and sentenced to a fine of $100.00 plus court costs.

Our commentary: What a pathetic mess.  She refuses to leave and the bar employees actually carried her out to the parking lot in her frigging chair to await the arrival of police.  Looking back, this was a period in time that PEW was allowing this drunken, alcoholic slob to watch our children, consistently pontificating that she “wasn’t drinking” and “loved the children” and “would do nothing to harm them” - over my ongoing objections to having Psycho-SIL be alone with our children under any circumstances.

Another of the Psycho-SIL Criminal Series…

Date: 6/27/2004, Thursday

Time: 10:14PM

Location: [Calligraphy's] Restaurant

Perpetrator: Psycho-SIL

Report Summary by Officer CD:

On 6/27/2004 around 2214 hours, I responded to the [Such-And-Such] Shopping Center for an intoxicated female trying to get into a vehicle.  Upon my arrival, I noticed two restaurant staff members out with the female that was leaning against her trunk.

I spoke with Johnny McManager, the manager of the restaurant.  Johnny stated that the female came into the bar and ordered a drink.  The bartender gave her a Cosmopolitan and took it away from her after noticing hat she was too intoxicated to be served.  The female walked outside trying to drive her vehicle away.  Johnny and another employee stopped her from driving out of the lot and waited with her until I arrived.

I noticed the vehicle with [state registration deleted] parked straddling two parking spots.  I spoke with the female who identified herself with a [state license] as Psycho-SIL.  Psycho-SIL spoke with slurred speech and had a difficult time standing unassisted.  Psycho-SIL stated thath she wasn’t going to drive home, but she was going to walk home to [her apartment address in locality].  I noticed a strong odor of an alcoholic beverage on her breath.

I gave Psycho-SIL a PBT, which indicated a .34% blood alcohol content.  Psycho-SIL was taken into custody and transported to the [police station].  Psycho-SIL was photographed and assigned booking [#1234567].  A non-traffic citation was issued to Psycho-SIL for Public Drunkenness.

Psycho-SIL was released to her father, Psycho-FIL, at 2345 hours.

Our commentary: The psycho is a total menace to society.  This also points to the problem police have over the “legalties” surrounding specific circumstances.

PSYCHO-SIL BLOWS A .34% ON THE BREATHALYZER!!!  THAT’S MORE THAN 4-TIMES THE LEGAL LIMIT!!! As detailed on The Psycho Police Blotter - at her recent DUI arrest, she blew a .16%, 2-times the legal limit.  We’ll see that police report later during “Psycho-SIL Week.”

Yet, because she wasn’t caught actually driving, she avoids a DUI arrest.  Nevermind that she didn’t even get to have the Cosmopolitan that she ordered.  Nevermind that one has to reasonably assume that she drove to the restaurant while at least intoxicated to a point greater than 4-times the legal limit for DUI.  As no one saw her driving the vehicle, she is blessed with a simple public-drunkenness.

For all the time I’ve known her, she has been a drunk.  When PEW and I were married, I never permitted Psycho-SIL to babysit the children alone.  She was only ever there when it was in tandem with her mother.  Unmarried… I have no say.  Of course, never having thought to check criminal records, I had no knowledge that this was going on since then, but it didn’t surprise me when we found out.

I was hoping to do a take-off on the Discovery Channel’s “Shark Week” by having what I was prepared to call: The Psycho Ex-Wife’s “Psycho-SIL Week” featuring all of the criminal complaints that she has left in her wake over the past few years, all while being invited to live with and be a part of the children’s lives.

Maybe we should call it “Psycho Sister-In-Law Gone Wild” or something?

However, while some of the police departments we’ve visited have been cooperative and swift in our requests for the public records to which we are entitled, others are dragging their feet.  Since I am too impatient to wait until I get all of them, we’ll drop them in as we get them or simply feel compelled to.

We’ll start Monday, August 17th.  For some background, re-visit The Psycho Police Blotter.