The Psycho Ex Wife

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Prior to November 2, 2007 - I was the “non-custodial parent” and had my children about 1/3 of the year. Every other weekend during the school year + extra time (holidays, spring and winter breaks, teacher in-service days, etc.).

November 2nd, 2007 was the latest in a long line of custody hearings during the course of the last 3-years and saw gain even more ground. After being unemployed for the better part of 9-months, I managed to secure a job, but not just any job (as future posts will detail) - a job back in my original state, which gave me the opportunity to get 50/50 custody of my children.

She had actually filed what I believe was her 6th-contempt petition against me in addition to a petition to modify custody to award her sole physical and legal custody. When I got my new job and secured housing in the state where the children reside, I exercised a clause that Judge Contempt entered into the custody order of October 13th, 2006, which read something like “…should father obtain employment and establish a residence in the state where the children primarily reside, he shall be granted 50/50 custody after a short hearing.”

I secured employment on September 4th, 2007. I secured a nice cottage house on October 6th, 2007 - only one week before my deadline. You cannot begin to imagine the series of events which had to happen to enable this dream to come true - and that they did was equally unimaginable. November 2nd, 2007 was that short hearing. I filed my counter-modification for custody on September 7th, 2007.

It was a fairly uneventful hearing. With exception of 2 provisions in my petition (items 4 and 8 - she didn’t like being ordered to meet halfway), PEW actually agreed to all of the rest of my terms. The entirety of my petition was as follows:

The Petitioner respectfully requests that the Honorable Court modify the existing Order of Court as follows:

1 - Legal Custody: Father and Mother shall have joint legal custody.

2 - Physical Custody: Father and Mother shall have joint physical custody. The schedule shall be alternating weeks, with exchanges taking place on Sundays, commencing with Father’s first available custodial week commencing after entry of this order or move-in date for the reserved [Work State] residence, whichever is later.

3 - Vacations: Vacation plans must be made by either party during their custodial time and may not interfere with the other parent’s custodial time. If vacation is to be taken, each party must provide the other a minimum of 15-days notice as to their vacations dates, locations & addresses,, and contact phone numbers.

4 - Custody Exchanges: Custody exchanges will take place at a mutually agreed upon location to be provided to the court in writing by both parties within 48-hours of this order. Exchange time shall be between 3:00PM and 4:00PM. Should father elect to spend custodial time with the children at their [Home State] home, the custody exchange shall take place at the [Exchange Point]. on Sundays, between 4:00PM and 5:00PM, unless Father is returning to his [Work State] residence, in which case, the exchange shall take place at the agreed-upon exchange point.

5 - Holidays, Special Occasions: Physical Custody of the children shall be shared by the parties according to the following schedule which takes priority over regularly scheduled periods of custody:

Thanksgiving to include the entire weekend of Thanksgiving. Father shall have custody in odd years and Mother shall have custody in even years.

Christmas to include December 24th through December 26th, Father shall have custody during even years and Mother shall have custody in odd years with the following exception: Pursuant to the contempt order entered by Honorable JC in March of 2007, Father was awarded the holiday of Christmas 2007 for the full week from December 23rd, 2007 through December 30th, 2007. Beginning in 2008, the aforementioned holiday schedule will resume.

New Year’s Holiday to include December 31st, through January 1st. Father shall have custody in odd years and Mother shall have custody in even years.

Easter Holiday shall be in accordance with the school calendar. Father shall have custody in odd years and Mother shall have custody in even years.

6 - Phone Communication with the Children: Each party shall have reasonable telephone access to the children at reasonable hours when they are in the custody of the other parent.

7 - Childcare: During the school year, the children are to be enrolled in aftercare associated with the school they attend preferably. If not, another licensed daycare facility is permitted as agreed upon in writing by both parties. During the summer period, the children are to be enrolled in a licensed daycare facility, summer camp, or certified nanny as agreed upon in writing by both parties.

Right of First Refusal – In the event that either parent cannot make themselves available to care for the children during their custody period for reasons which may include, but are not limited to; work travel, family illness, school holiday without work holiday, family emergency – the other parent will have first right of refusal to care for the children prior to any other arrangements being made. If the other parent is unable to care for the children under such circumstances, the custodial parent may make other suitable arrangements. Both the offer and acceptance/refusal must be made in writing.

8 - Child Custody Changes (Relocation): Should father lose employment and housing in the area where the mother resides with Mother at any time, all provisions set forth in the prior custody order dated October 13th, 2006 shall return to full effect if such termination affects his ability to remain a resident of [Work State] and financial circumstances necessitate a return to the [Home State] residence.

9 - Extracurricular Activities: Each party may sign up the children for sports teams or other extracurricular activities that take place during that parent’s custody time so long as that activity doesn’t require the children’s or child’s participation during the other parent’s custody time absent the other parent’s written agreement.

10 - Decision-Making: With regard to any emergency decisions that must be made, the parent with whom the children are in custody at the time shall be permitted to make the decision necessitated by the emergency without consulting the other party in advance. However, the parent making such a decision shall notify the other party of the emergency and consult with him/her as soon as possible. Day-to-day decisions of a routine nature will be the responsibility of the parent having physical custody at the time.

11 - Changes: All provisions of this agreement may be altered with prior WRITTEN agreement between both parties. If a deviation is agreed to by both parties, it may not be revoked or changed without subsequent written agreement by both parties. Written agreements may be accomplished via email, fax, or through other documented media.

The orders of January 11, 2005, August 28th, 2006, and October 13th, 2006 shall remain in full force and effect except as modified herein.

The Petitioner does pray and request that the Honorable Court will grant the Modification as stated herein on an Emergent Status. The reason for the request for emergent status is to allow the Petitioner to expedite the final plans for living arrangements suitable for the family and to permit the father the custody time to which he is entitled and fervently desires
as quickly as possible.

Respectfully Submitted,
LM
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On item 4, the judge made me responsible for the full trip should I take them to my home in my home state (about 4-hours away) since I now have a residence and will usually be coming back to PEW’s home state.

The judge revised item 8 to exclude everything and call for a hearing because “many other circumstances may have changed as well and I would want to review the issues that may exist at that time.”

Neither wholly unreasonable. I got my 50/50 and that was all that truly mattered at that point. When asked on no fewer than 3 occasions by JC if she read and understood all provisions of the petition that were about to be entered as her order with the aforementioned changes, PEW answered, “yes.”

She’ll conveniently forget all of these details when she files her next contempt petition in an effort to destroy another holiday - Christmas 2007 - less than 45-days later… I’m in Contempt of the Future

After deciding to go low contact with PEW we have a good time writing replies that are never sent in the aftermath of whatever delusion she is currently embroiled within. This is the reply that was never sent after the dentist debacle of 2007.

The State Of Reality Address, 04/2007

After your latest delusional diatribe, it’s time for me to give you a stark reminder of reality, one which you are incapable of understanding or accepting, but one that you should be made to read about every once in a while.

With regard to the dentist issue, all you ever had to do in the last 2 years was let me know that you were unwilling or otherwise incapable of making sure that their teeth were examined and cleaned. I could definitely have taken them to the dentist during what should have been at least one of their 6-month visits, but since you have dedicated all of your communication to the usual and customary abuse and denigration, you’ve conveniently let their dental hygiene fall by the wayside. Yes, I can take them to the dentist this Summer, but the school required that this be handled this past year, not in the Summer. Blame me, you always do, but the reality is - you didn’t do anything to make sure that their teeth were taken care of, including simply letting me know at ANY time during the last 2 years that they needed exams/cleanings. You fought so hard for primary custody and can’t seem to make sure that they go to the dentist regularly. I guess when their teeth start to rot - that’ll be my fault, too. Way to hone your victimhood skills, PEW.

As for school, yes, I know how well he is doing and how well he is reading. As always, I encourage his schoolwork and contribute more than you’ll ever care to know. I read with him. I encourage him to try different kinds of books (including now reading stuff that is even higher than his current rating) and he is doing extremely well with it. It’s amazing the types of things he is willing to do when he is not planted in front of a tv, playing computer games, videogames, or his gameboy.

Your assertions regarding my alleged “criticism and control” are not only false where the kids are concerned, but have always been false and/or greatly exaggerated throughout our existence in each others’ lives so that you always have a horrifying story to tell all of those who unquestioningly support you. The only real shame is that they won’t see all of the evidence that I have who shows who the most controlling, abusive, and manipulative person was and continues to be in this “relationship.” It goes without saying that they would be shocked, concerned, but most of all, saddened by the efforts you’ve put in to hide the real you from them, at least with respect to your (ex)husband and your children.

As usual, you take full credit for all of the good they do and none of the credit for anything that goes wrong. They are doing so well because of their teachers… teachers who work very hard despite your efforts (or lack thereof), particularly in the arena of developing their interpersonal relationship skills and making sure that they get to bed at a decent hour so that they are not so habitually tired and lethargic in class - the chief complaint of both of their teachers and the ONLY significant complaint (as Ms. R told me) regarding S9. I can’t imagine how well they would be doing if they got to bed at a reasonable hour regularly and their television, videogame, and movie time were curtailed in exchange for time spent doing something more meaningful. When the children are with DW and I, they engage in fun activities, activities where they get a decent amount of exercise, and educational activities, such as reading, crafting, or simply playing games where they actually have to interact with other human beings.

I can take an awful lot of credit for how great the children are because we make a great effort to make their lives as normal and meaningful as possible with the time they have with us. We are severely limited in that you’ve spared little effort to minimize the time that I have with the children. Despite your efforts, I still have them fully 1/3 of every year, and though disjointed in nature, do the very best to make the time we do get together as meaningful as possible. Since you and I have an equal number of weekends, and the majority of the 15 or so hours that you actually have with them during the week is spent in front of a television or on the computer, I’m pretty confident that the actual meaningful interaction with the children is at least even.

As for the money issue and what I buy, you really need to figure out a way to understand the reality of the situation. When I did have my job, my take-home pay was about $36K/year. After taxes, I am required to give you nearly $14K… tax-free. That leaves me with $22K with which to take care of all of my bills and support the children when I have them 1/3 of the time. You, on the otherhand, after receiving that amount from me, top out with a TAKE-HOME pay figure of somewhere between $35K and $40K. How you have been unable to manage the take-home pay of a junior executive escapes me, but the only person responsible for that is you. Though the alleged “figure” is about 60% responsibility financially, the reality is that I pay for much more than 60% of their actual needs annually. However, even taking 60% as the baseline, that means *I* pay for 60% of their food, clothes, shoes, toys, games, housing, medicine, doctors, school, childcare, gifts, parties, events, movies, “and everything else” as you put it when they are with you. The fact that you don’t recognize nor acknowledge that reality is not unusual for you and your perpetual victim position. Now, when you factor in that you paid NOTHING towards their childcare when they were with me (in 2005), you lied to the court when you offered overinflated childcare costs when you took them out of agreed upon childcare, placing them with friends and pocketing the difference, the amount of money you received from me in 2005 and 2006, tax-free, exceeds $30,000. That you haven’t set aside a decent portion of that money for a 403b or some other education fund for them is a crime. If you can’t manage to live appropriately on that amount of money, the laughable contention that you will be able to do it with “nothing” as you position yourself for martydom is just not a realistic expectation. Even if I were paying you nothing right now, I would still be in the red.

So, while you enjoy the luxury of having somewhere in the neighborhood of $35K - $40K after taxes and deductions ($15K/year of which I am required to give to you)… I have a mere $22K out of which I have to pay 100% of everything when they are in my care for between 100 and 150 days per year. You truly contribute NOTHING to their care when they are with me while I have been contributing in excess of $14,000 per year to their care when they are with you between 200 and 250 days per year.

I don’t know how you’ve managed to get it in your head that I have this stash of money, but the reality is that I have nothing. I actually have less than nothing. I expect to have nothing for the foreseeable future. When you combine the fact that even when I had a job paying $55K/year, given that I only had approximately $22K to pay for all of my responsibilities, for myself, the children, and everything else, I have no capacity to save for their future, let alone my own. Not for their educations. Nothing. Combine that with your history of irresponsible money management and the kids will continue to have nothing available for them which parents normally try so hard with regard to their children.

This is only compounded further by the unfortunate and unexpected situation with “my old employer”. Unemployment is the equivalent of $1,400/month and I only have 26-weeks of benefits available to me to pay for all of my responsibilities. Out of that, I pay you $200/month, leaving me $1,200 to pay for ALL of my responsibiliies each month, including the children
100% as you contribute NOTHING when they are with me. Given my housing contributions is supposed to be $1,000/month, you do the math. Given that, for now, I have to pay $750/month OOP just for the health insurance, you do the math. Not that you give a crap about any of this, but it was a struggle to pay for my responsibilities when I had a good-paying job. The fact that you would selfishly complain given the state of current circumstances only proves that your ability to project is limitless.

It’s frankly unconscionable that in the face of what is a very, very serious situation for all of us, all you can do is think about yourself, continue with your uncanny ability to verbally and psychologically abuse others, and not face the reality that is that everybody loses and mostly because of your inability to do little beyond creating chaos out of every single little situation that comes up, and in many cases, create chaos out of your own fiction. You have only ever had to do a minimum to ensure good, ongoing communication in this situation, but your selfishness, consistent inability to follow court orders and agreements continues us on this path of self-destruction and for that I am sad for everybody.

Finally, when the children grow up and have questions, there is little doubt in my mind that, if and when they are presented with the evidence of abuse, lies, and misconduct with regard to attempting to do right by them in the aftermath of the divorce that you so strongly desired, pursued, and ultimately received - that they will, without question, recognize that the true monster in all of this has been you. They will see how hard you worked and how much of their future you spent trying to separate me as much as possible from their lives. They will see how much of their future I had to spend defending myself and ensuring that you complied with even the simplest of requirements placed before us.

Worse than that, I don’t think you actually have the ability to change so that peace may take hold in this situation. All I have ever wanted was to move ahead with my life without all of the bullshit. Unfortunately, between your actions, your regularly horrible emails, and your ongoing refusal to comply with orders/agreements means that this type of relationship with you will never end and I assure you it’s ONLY because you can’t live any other way. The evidence speaks for itself.

This is the current state of reality, PEW.

~LM

As you will see throughout our story, there are themes. There will always be issues with holidays, vacations, and dentists/doctors visits. Most of these have to do with two things, either responsibility which PEW can’t handle, or anytime PEW feels as if she’s being abandoned. This year’s dentist debacle was a special treat we’ve missed for awhile simply because the responsibility for taking them to the dentist was too much and they missed the last 3 visits. Keep in mind LM pays for insurance and PEW has primary custody at this point. We get the boys 4 days a month and yet she can’t handle 2 appointments a year *rolleyes*.

(04/16/2007) PEW

LM, I am having a serious problem with the dental insurance. I can’t find a dentist who accepts it. I’ve called several…I even went to the website…called dentists from there and the dental offices are telling me NO…they are not in the network. Both kids need an appointment, but especially S6 because the school wants it…..is there a dentist in your state or something who can see him this weekend maybe?

LM:

Sorry you’re having such difficulty finding a participating dentist. I called “Insurance” directly and they told me that we can take the children to ANY dentist ANYWHERE in the country. If they take insurance, they should take our insurance card and file a claim directly with “Insurance”. If any dentist chooses not to do that, you will be required to pay up-front and then submit the claim for which you will be reimbursed 100%.

I have attached a claim form just for review. My dentist doesn’t have weekend hours so the worst case scenario is that we do what we had to in 2005… just give me the bills for the boys, I will submit them with the claim form, and write you a check when the reimbursement check comes. Like before, I have to submit for the reimbursement because the policy is through my employer.

PEW:

LM, I do not have $600 laying around to fork out for the dentist…..especially since I have to pay you $675 this month. How about you take them to the dentist and put the money out? Thanks for nothing. You are just AWFUL.

LM:

It doesn’t cost $600 for cleanings for the boys. Further, whatever you have to put out you will get back in full for the visits, just like in ‘05. Also, don’t forget about the $365.94 which is owed me from the hospital visit for S9 last year. You had 20-days, which I believe has expired, to reimburse me, which again puts you in contempt of court. Please stop with the angry and abusive emails. Thanks.

PEW:

I will have to leave ANOTHER job I love, because you can’t “be there” for your children. It has become glaringly obvious that you don’t EVER want to pay child support again, so you won’t work. And NOW you can’t even provide decent health benefits for them. I will start looking for a NEW job where I can get the kids decent benefits. Thanks LM….Thanks for RUINING our lives.

LM:

Please stop with the angry and abusive emails. Thanks.

PEW:

you can take them to the dentist over the summer. I will let the school know.

LM:

I would suggest that you take them sooner rather than later unless a future switch to CHIP will cover dental as well. You know that the affordability of Cobra for the both of us at this time is not very good. Just a suggestion in the best interests of the boys’ dental health.

PEW:

As I told you, there was a window of opportunity for the CHIP, which has passed. I would have to re-apply and who knows if they would accept us again. I take care of every aspect of the childrens physical, emotional, and academic health……I don’t think it’s too much to ask for you to do a dentist appointment ONE time per year. I’m leaving it at that. It’s neglect on your part if you do not do it. Your insurance company will not even speak to me or reimburse me directly….it makes perfect sense for you to do this for your children. That’s all I have to say on this matter. I am telling the school that the boys will go to the dentist over the summer when they are with you.

LM:

When was the last time the boys were at the dentist? Who was the dentist?

PEW:

The fall of 2005 and it was Dr. B and he does not accept the Insurance

LM:

The boys haven’t had an exam or cleaning in almost 2-years? And you intimated that I’m neglectful if I don’t take them? They should be getting exams/cleanings every 6-months, PEW. Too much trouble for you?

You do know it was a state requirement to have this done prior to the school year. And I must remind you that we may not have Cobra by the time Summertime rolls around. I’ll urge you again to take them to the dentist ASAP. You fought very hard to be the primary custodian, you should be caring for them like one. Or, if it’s too much trouble for you, again, we can always change custody arrangements. But please spare me your angry, abusive retorts. Or, if you were going to just not take them, you could have informed me prior to last Summer and I could have taken them. Take them to the dentist and get the form to the school.

Our commentary: Yes, we are supposed to pay child support, pay for insurance, take care of all the appointments including taking an entire day off to drive up to her state in order to do so, make sure they are eating well (when she has them too you know), punish them over the phone when they hit kids at school (she can’t be the “bad” parent), teach them how to tie their shoes, ride bikes, study, do it all, yes, even though we only see them 4-days a month. It must be nice to be the “primary” parent! Also, notice the projection? She says LM is neglectful, when you can clearly see it’s her. What an asshole.

I have to offer a little more groundwork for you readers. Up to this point, I had an attorney and had spent damn near every dollar to my name fighting for my kids only to not get them. I had them about 1/3 of the year for my investment. It was the best I could do and I relish every moment of it. She has done very well for me despite significant odds against us.

By the time the contempt hearing rolled around March 30th, 2007, my funds were exhausted. Complicating matters, in January of 2007, my workplace relocated across the country and I was out of a job. However, given that we were averaging anywhere from 6 to 15 visits to the court per year (conferences and hearings) - I didn’t want to cut my attorney loose. I still have her “in reserve” so to speak, so when truly important bullshit arises, I can bring her in to handle it. If there are trivial issues which PEW has escalated to hearing status and my attorney believes I could handle it on my own, she would serve in an advisory capacity. In her words, I’ve always prepared for court extremely well, took an active role in my case (which everyone should do), and paid close enough attention to understand the basics… how to object on hearsay, relevancy, evidence - fairly straightforward Legal 101.

This hearing would be my first foray into “semi pro-se” representation. In court, I was on my own. Now pro-se herself after firing her second attorney in as many years (an expensive one at that) - PEW, fancying herself a would-be attorney, was now representing herself as well. I was counting on her inability to maintain a coherent line of questioning and her uncanny ability to screw herself when things weren’t going her way.

I was looking for three things:

1. PEW to be found guilty of contempt of court for failing to put S6 into the agreed-upon childcare facility as agreed to in the summer of 2006 and was re-affirmed in the custody hearings of October 2006.
2. PEW to be found guilty of contempt of court for custodial interference on her failure to show up at the ordered exchange point so that I could have my Christmas Holiday and winter break for 2006.
3. In terms of sanctions, I wanted reimbursement to the tune of $1200.00 for legal fees in preparing for the litigation and peripheral expenses associated with same. Additionally, I want the future schedule to be altered to award me the Christmas Holiday and winter break for 2007 before resuming our regular schedule.

None of these requests were unreasonable. Give me back what I lost because of her latest round of bullshit. As I had been through the legal wringer for the better part of 2-years at that point, I had prepared myself for no relief and, if that were the case, I wasn’t going to fight for much more of anything. I was on the edge of having completely lost faith in the legal system.

JC would surprise me this day.

She had already laid most of the groundwork for her “alibi” as detailed in the previous posts (Part III and Part IV).

In court, she would try to use the excuse that she was “sick.” She would “prove” this by having an affidavit signed by her supervisor that she missed work on December 19th. She was in work on the 20th and 21st, though - but it didn’t stop her from trying. She tried to bolster her argument with a “doctor’s note.” It was dated December 26th. Neither was convincing to the judge. In fact, it aggravated JC. She saw it for what it was - an obvious attempt to give herself an “alibi.” The judge blew it out of the water.

The judge’s ruling as written from the transcript:

Judge Contempt (JC): So, ma’am, with respect to the issue of day care, there’s no question you’re in contempt for not following the day care provision that I imposed, because there is an issue of who he could use down in [LM's State]. And so I said both of you have to do licensed day care providers.

And on that issue, Mother is to notify Father in advance if she wants to change any day care arrangements, and the parties have to agree in writing. And counsel fees will be imposed if Mother is found in contempt in the future of this — of this provision.

With respect to Christmas 2006, I find Mother’s in contempt. Hand down. She did not do what she should. And that’s the issue that is going to cost her counsel fees.

I direct that within 30-days of today’s date, Mother is to pay the sum of $675.00, which represents three hours at $225.00 for [LM's attorney] for the petition; that she is to pay $675.00 to Father by check and keep a record that he’s cashed it and that you get it back. Thirty days, $675.00.

Further, Mother and Father, they have to do the makeup for Father’s missed Christmas in 2006. Therefor, the Christmas schedule is modified to say that Father has the next Christmas. Then you go back to whenever the schedule would say. Father will have Christmas schedule in ‘07 and then we go back to whatever should happen.

That’s my order.

And my faith in the system continues on it’s upswing. After getting the bulk of what I wanted (absent primary custody) in the October 2006 custody hearings, the judge finding her in contempt and imposing sanctions against PEW - was another step up in this three-ring-circus.

Believe it or not, after repeatedly failing to follow the judge’s orders in various ways over the prior few years - she failed to pay me the money the court ordered in 30-days. On day 30, I called the court and she was summoned for another contempt of court hearing for failing to heed the latest order. This isn’t me filing for contempt, this is effectively the JUDGE filing for contempt. Upon her notification of another hearing, she quickly paid me the $675.00 by check.

She asked me to call the court on her behalf after she paid me, which I refused to do. My hope was that despite the payment, because it was late, the already pissed-off judge would go nuclear on her. However, when she provided Domestic Relations with the proof of her payment - the court withdrew the petition.

Too bad.

When Christmas 2007 rolls around… she’ll try to destroy them again…

After not getting more attention from LM, PEW unleashes her venom upon everyone in her contact list. Literally. As Christmas draws to a close we begin getting calls from family members saying that PEW called them crying about how we abandoned the kids on Christmas Eve. WHAT? We fucking drove 4 fucking hours to get the kids, 4 hours I could have been with MY kids, and that whore is crying victim again? We simply say: If you don’t want her calling you, tell her so, she won’t listen to us.

Little did I know until a week later, she also contacted me. PEW is really starting to unravel at this point and has begun stalking me online. I have written for numerous sites over the last 7 years and my name is pretty much everywhere. Along with my articles are bylines that include my writers e-mail, which I don’t check very often as I use another address for family, friends and business. I don’t check it until Jan 2nd, but here is what she wrote to me:

(12/26/2006) PEW:

I think it’s very sad that you KNEW he was going to do this and you didn’t do anything to stop it..I have been under a Dr’s care for 2 weeks…..fever, etc……..also….for a future step-mother to no even get on the phone to say merry christmas….that’s VERY telling……..what are you thinking????? I’m sad DW….very sad…..I had much more faith in you than you obviously deserved………it’s always been that way…I can’t figure out why an attractive woman like yourself…with obviously enough money to be independant would put up with someone like LM……….the only thing I can figure is that you don’t think much of yourself……please think of S9 and S6 for a minute…..I know it’s hard because their not your kids….but think about how they feel right now??? I have the flu…I have a Dr’s note…….I don’t know what else to give you guys….

Our Commentary: Oh no she didn’t. She has the nerve to write me at an e-mail I NEVER gave her and tell me *I* should think of her children? Was she thinking of MY children when I spent 4 hours driving on Christmas Eve? I thought her kids were having a great time with her? I thought they were happy being there? Isn’t that how they are feeling according to her? Flu my ass. First it was one day, then 3 days, and now we are up to sick for 2 weeks. Don’t think JC won’t notice these inconsistencies.

My response to her: (1/02/2007) DW:

I will tell you this once, and once only. The next time you call my business, a personal phone number of mine, or e-mail a personal account of mine that is for anything other than the death or injury of one of your children, I will file harassment charges against you as well as a restraining order. Since my business is in M county, it will be infinitely easier than the last time you and your family decided to harass and threaten me. The same goes for your family, so you should refrain from your desire to send them this e-mail only to have them “come after me” much like a six year old would do.

You were not sick for 2 weeks, seeing as how on Christmas day you said it was only for 3 days which was a lie in and of itself, you and you alone chose to do this again to your children, as you even told LM that you told him a “month ago” you would not drive on Christmas Eve. What I KNEW LM would do, was what he was responsible for, driving to EP. LM and I took 4 hours out of our own Christmas Eve (away from MY children) to drive while you decided to play games yet again with your children’s lives. I’m sorry you feel the need to do this.

I no longer talk to your children on the phone because you have scared them into not wanting to talk to me because it makes you feel bad about yourself, they wish to protect you. I will not put them in between us, they are welcome to love me and talk to me when they are in my home, until they are comfortable showing affection for me around you. Hopefully someday you will think about your actions in front of the children and how it affects them, until then, the boys will suffer. For instance, you didn’t even look at your children, not to mention mine, when trying to start something in Wendy’s when you finally decided to do the right thing and pick up your children on Sunday. It shouldn’t surprise me, seeing as how you’ve done this numerous times during exchanges, and even at court while holding onto your children and trying to incite LM’s Mother. It’s sad that you have such little self control even in front of your own children. As you so often request of everyone else PEW, I hope someday you will get help for all of your issues and begin putting your children first, including doing your part in exchanges, diets, exercise, co-parenting and much needed therapy for the children.

I know this e-mail will do nothing for you to accept responsibility for yourself or your children, but know that I will no longer take over when you should be responsible. The boys will learn on their own who has cared for them by our actions.

Until then, do not call, e-mail, or visit me, or you will have charges filed against you.

Sincerely,
DW

(1/02/2007) PEW:

I won’t contact you again….because again, I thought maybe you could be more reasonalbe or rational than LM, but you’re not, you’re even worse than him. LM and I will settle all of the rest of this in court, hopefully by the end of January. Feel free to TRY to file a restraining order or harrassment charges though….I have news for you, I have not threatened you or harrassed you in any way. We both know that you are the one who is truly responsible for all the “game” playing.  Thanks for your help.

Our commentary: Little did I know this would be the beginning of her following me around, trying to find out how much money I made, trying to make the courts sanction child support against ME, lmfao. Ah yes, but it’s all about money for us.