Cast of Main Characters
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PEW = Psycho Ex-Wife
She’s on the precipice of 40 and probably looks all 50-years of it. Imagine if you will, Jabba The Hut, with less personality. She spends her time with her bipolar sister (PP, see below) drinking her days away bemoaning her victim status, when she isn’t stuffing the children with fast food, buying them toys, or pushing them towards the TV or computer.
LM = The ex husband
He’s on the brink of 40 and believes he looks in his 20s. He’s not conceited, he just doesn’t live by the “you’re only as old as you feel” - he tosses in “…and pretend you look however old you feel, too!” He’s handsome, but I’m biased. Before PEW divorced him, PP told her she would never find someone as great. Damn, she was right for once.
DW = The ex-husband’s new partner…
…since the summer of 2004. She’s a 30-something divorced woman who is still friends with her ex husband, because he’s not insane. Also, yes, she’s hot.
MM = PEW’s codependent mother
Stayed with her husband EE (see below) despite things like being held at gunpoint in front of her children, alcoholism, and (we suspect) sexually abusing his daughters. This is not an uncommon root for the mental illness we suspect PEW of suffering from.
EE = PEW’s alcoholic father
Thinks he’s a big shot. Ex-cop. He is big, in the ego and the stomach, but he doesn’t have the muster to back it up. Classic short-man complex. A windbag full of hot-air who makes himself feel better about himself by being a racist who enjoys tormenting others, even if it’s making fun of children and teaching them deliberately to use foul language and say inappropriate things.
PP = PEW’s bipolar…
…alcoholic, fake abortion having, two-time gastric bypass recipient, fired for embezzlement, fake attorney, still single in her mid-40s, sister. Oh, she’s a treat. She’s the “advisor” to PEW - master of everything, and a completely uninformed moron on all of it. She will always believe she is more important than she’ll ever come close to achieving. She’s her father only without the drive, determination, or brains to accomplish anything in life.
JC = Judge Contempt
Aptly named as she has found PEW in contempt more times than not. Also, it’s no coincidence that her initials are also those of Jesus Christ, as she truly does hold our life in her hands. Though it’s taken some time, PEW’s self-destructive efforts have opened up JC’s eyes and her patience is wearing thin.
S1, formerly S9 = Son of PEW and L. Incredibly intelligent, incredibly undisciplined.
S2, formerly S6 = Son of PEW and L. Incredibly adorable firecracker.
SS1, formerly S8 = Son of D. Total cutie pie, amazingingly athletic.
SD1, formerly D9 = Daughter of D. Poor girl in a sea of testosterone, but don’t let that fool you. Independent and spunky.
POE = Poe is DW’s ex-husband
Their post-divorce relationship is the polar opposite of the one I have with The PEW. These two put the children first-and-foremost when the day came to dissolve their marriage. Agreements were centered around the children. Who would stay in the marital home, for how long, and when it would be sold. The two households staying reasonably close to manage the day-to-day “co-parenting” of the children. They’re often there to “cover” one another when something comes up and the children need to stay with the other for short or long periods of time. It’s a classic 50/50 arrangement with seemingly unlimited flexibility for the most part. There was no court war, child support, battle over assets - just a separation and a quiet divorce process when the appropriate time period had passed - and then getting on with their lives.
There will be other bios to come as everything is laid out for those willing to follow, participate, comment, or simply lurk.
January 7th, 2008 at 3:00 am
She’s on the precipice of 40 and probably looks all 50-years of it. Imagine if you will, Jabba The Hut, with less personality.
I read this to my husband and he choked on his drink. He wants to know how y’all could have been married to the same woman!
January 12th, 2008 at 12:53 am
Oh, I’m a character alright, and LM’s best friend of some 20+ years.
I was there and saw it all, first-hand. If you even think of doubting the verity of what this man writes, think again.
I could post a few stories about my relationship with PEW over the years. Some of them would curl your hair.
LM, DW, this is great! Love ya both!
January 27th, 2008 at 11:46 pm
Oh.My.Gosh. I think your story and ours are the same. Although I really like PEW (it’s so fitting), she’s called The Egg Donor on my blog.
The whole thing–the craziness, the 80K, the constant freakouts, the claims of abuse, the system that is finally, finally, finally seeing things for what they are–been there!
I’m so sorry that you all have to go through it.
I’m sorry that anyone does…
February 23rd, 2008 at 6:05 pm
This is great! I think PEW and my ex would be perfect for one another!
I’m the the midst of my own hell with a psycho drunk who tortures us daily..
The saving grace we (or I) have is that all of it is public record! Oh, the stories we could all share!!!!
March 11th, 2008 at 8:57 pm
Oh. My. Goodness. I am SOOOOO glad I found you guys!!! I feel like we are related! LOL. I am the not-so-new g/f (20-something yrs old) of a now divorced ($100,000 in legal bills later) late-thirties man who has the PEW to end all PEW’s! We call her Hoser….it started as Hose Bitch and evolved from there. 2 year divorce, attempted restraining orders, lying to the police about assaults, requests for $30,000 per month lifetime alimony on an 8 year marriage, going to a TMobile store to have an employee there call me to find out who I was, deposing well over 30 people for standard divorce proceedings, asking me to produce all receipts of anything that had been purchased for me over the past 2 years, racing to to the school to see who would be able to get the kids before the other, screaming phone calls and more screaming phone calls, informing half of the city in which we live that my b/f was gay and that’s why SHE left HIM (couldn’t have been that he hated her and had found someone hotter and 11 years younger, could it?), instructing her 6 year old not to touch me, refusing to give my b/f 50% custody even though he said he wouldn’t take a reduction in child support. Dropping off $90 she owed my b/f in pennies at his office, in a bag. Refusing to take the kids for 3 days this coming Spring while we will be out of town, but also EXPRESSLY OBJECTING (as her attorney wrote), to us using a babysitter. The list goes on. And on. And on. And ON. Next move - we’ve requested an independent psych evaluation. Wish us luck! I don’t know who put this woman on the planet, but I don’t think it was God, we’re pretty sure it was the other guy. P.S: The only saving grace is that she looks like one of those troll dolls and it makes me laugh. Maybe that’s why she straightens her hair, to keep it from sticking up like that LOL
March 22nd, 2008 at 2:07 pm
I can’t believe there are people out there going through the same thing and my finace and I! My f’s ex also looks like a troll doll and is specialist in lieing. Same as the rest, false abuse on her & the kids, restraining orders, harassing and stalking. And, even deeper stuff like money laundring and tax evasion! I really like the one about paying money back in pennies! Unfortunatly we haven’t had the good judge yet who has seen through her bs. She is 4′11 and can cry on command so men tend to feel sorry for her, she has got that victim thing down. We need a woman judge bc they can usually see through that! Can’t wait to keep reading!
April 12th, 2008 at 8:27 pm
We haven’t decided on a permanent name for ours–the Fruit Loop, Ms. Crazy Pants, and The Psycho are all being considered, but we’re still thinking.
Glad you’re keeping your sense of humor!!!
April 28th, 2008 at 5:13 pm
Wow…I absolutely cannot believe there are people in virtually the exact same boat as me.
My partner and I refer to my PEW as DPC (Ditch Pig C_ _ t) or as the 3000 lb elephant sitting in our living room.
In my (our) case I truly believe that DPC suffers from a Borderline Personality Disorder with a Histrionic component to it. That said, I think she also has a good deal of plain old fashioned “evilness” to her.
She has made all kinds of abuse accusations against me and has been engaging in extreme PA over the past 2 1/2 years that we have been apart.
I hung in for just shy of eight years for the sake of my two natural kids and a step son from her other previous marriage. Despite the living hell that I am forced to endure as this thing winds itself through our Canadian system of family law, I have never been happier in my life.
Early on in my process DPC obtained a without notice protection order that prevented me from having any contact with her or my children. She completely fabricated and misrepresented the facts to get her order and I was advised by counsel that the courts always act out of an “abundance of caution”. I was therefore in a position of not having a presumption of innocence and it was only after many months and many $000’s of dollars that I was able to begin seeing my children again.
In the beginning she insisted on only supervised visitation. She would not accept my children’s two Godmothers (whom she had chosen) and only after I was able to put forward the name of a social worker who worked with Child and Family Services was I able to get access to them.
The Social Worker happened to be the older sister of one of my best friends. I did not know her at all but was thrilled when she offered to help me. It should be noted that she was herself divorced from an extremely abusive man and therefore was very familiar with the behaviours of children who come from abusive situations.
She “supervised” my visitation for about a month after which we applied to the court to grant me periods of care and control without any need of supervision. It should be noted that it was never the case of it being court ordered supervision, I agreed only as it was the most expedient way to see my kids.
I remained friends with the Social Worker after the supervision requirement was removed and subsequently we fell in love. She has now chosen to live with me despite the allegations of DPC and we couldn’t be happier unless we had my children living with us more or less full time.
DPC was livid when she found out and went to all kinds of extremes to damage us both, including making allegations about my partner to her employer.
We have undergone a parenting capacity assessment and the clinical psychologist who prepared it gave my partner and I a glowing review. His assessment of DPC was much less favourable but in the end he recommended a 50/50 custody split. With respect to my suspicion of a personality disorder he was unable to conclude from his clinical observation that this was present however he did suggest she apparently suffers from some mood cycling. He therefore recommended she be in a long-term therapudic relationship with a clinician skilled in the diagnosis of rapidly cycling mood disorders and that she be tracked longditudinally.
She has clearly chosen not to accept these findings and will not implement any the doctor’s suggestions. I am therefore having to push this to trial and have a two week long date set for this coming November.
Now that I have found this site I will be checking back regularly. I wish all some peace as you trudge through these trials.
May 25th, 2008 at 3:21 pm
You have my sympathy, and I echo the sentiments that you could be describing my PEW. Keeping the children in mind, taking the high road, allowing the defamations of character from the PEW (who consistently bites the hand that feeds her), and enduring her passive-aggressive tactics are a difficult path, but the right one. The children are not oblivious to what goes on, they form their own judgments, quickly surpass the mother’s emotional age, and gravitate to the unconditional love that a parent is supposed to have for the children. They recognize when one parent’s hate for the other is stronger than the love for them. That is the karmic reward for the HUNDREDS of thousands of misspent child support, legal fees for the best lawyers to fight against me (whose only interest is the kids and, silly me, a sense of justice and fairness in the Family Court system…Ha!), and the relationship with her children that she has destroyed on her own through her oppression and self-serving, petty antics.
Keep up the good fight. Now that I’ve found you, know that I’m with you in spirit as you do so.
June 12th, 2008 at 11:43 am
OMG I can’t believe this site exists!! I was just thinking about creating one because my fiancee is having the EXACT same deal with his ex-wife. I am thrilled to see we are not alone with our situation. THIS SITE ROCKS! I want to tell everyone our whole story. Is there a way?
June 12th, 2008 at 11:44 am
OMG I am so excited! THIS ROCKS!
July 2nd, 2008 at 11:12 pm
Great site. I’ve been through an exhausting and terrifying four years myself. Just won sole custody of my son from my second wife, who was formally diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Depression. She is allowed only supervised parenting time. And the court is allowing my son and I to relocate to another state, to escape her and her family’s continual attacks. This after she and her Legal Aid attorney initially manipulated the court into upholding a fraudulent restraining order against me which granted her temporary custody of my son for one year, and control of my home, which she and her family then stripped of all belongings. In all, a resounding victory for our 3 y.o. son. But at a cost of almost $100,000 in legal fees for a trial that lasted over 7 months and consumed over 40 hours of court testimony.
I’m a physician — I should have known better. But I fell prey to her charms and her beauty. And there is a part of me that still cares for her, still loves her, and still wishes she could be “normal”, so that our son could have a healthy mother. Fortunately, she is now on psychotropic medications, and says she is in behavioral management therapy — I hope she means Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. On the other hand, my son tells me that she’s dating a new “victim” — I wish there were a way I could warn him.
My first marriage was to a sane woman, and the two of us ended our marriage amicably, always putting our child’s needs ahead of our own. But my second marriage…
My second wife, the BPD/NPD mother of my son, is a high-functioning, charming, intelligent, slender, tall, long-haired, beautiful woman, and 22 years younger than me. She was able to convince two Ph.D. psychologists that she has no mental illness. But she is a highly-skilled manipulator, and her comfort with deceit is terrifying. She plays the victim effortlessly. My fight was with her, her bipolar/BPD mother, and her true-believer, radical feminist, man-hating, racially-biased Legal Aid attorney. Here are some of the things that she, with the assistance of her mother and attorney, did:
— abducted my son across state lines, twice, once at 6 months of age, a second time when he was 2 y.o.;
— forwarded my personal US mail, including correspondence from my attorney, to her parent’s PO Box, then refused to return my mail;
— stripped my home of over $100,000 in belongings — art work, Persian rugs, etc., going so far as to remove light and shower fixtures;
— hacked into my web-based email accounts;
— intercepted privileged emails between myself and my attorney;
— fabricated threatening emails to her from me, after hacking into my email account;
— submitted fabricated evidence to the court;
— suppressed out-of-state police reports during the restraining order hearing;
— filed false police reports against me;
— filed false reports of child abuse with CPS and the police against me;
— had a girlfriend of hers send a letter to the custody evaluator accusing me of being an ex-felon and running an internet child pornography ring;
— hacked into my (formerly) secure FTP site where I stored all my case notes;
— and the worst: she and her mom programmed my son’s 8-y.o. maternal half-sister into making false allegations that I had sexually abused her, the little girl, by using a recording device to help her practice her sex abuse “story”, a story containing explicit, graphic descriptions of deviant sexual acts.
We were fortunate to have an incredibly insightful and committed jurist as our trier of fact. She found my ex to be not credible, to have made false allegations of abuse against her and the children, and to have committed child abuse by sponsoring her daughter to make false allegations of sex abuse against me. The judge ruled from the bench, and also wrote out detailed findings of fact, providing me hard copy documentation to provide to authorities the next time this unhealthy woman and her family make false allegations against me. We also had a very professional and unbiased custody evaluator.
I’m writing a detailed analysis of my experience, including my view of what seemed to contribute to our success in court. It’s in part a case study of BDP across three generations of women — the ex-wife, her mother, and her 8-y.o. daughter, and in part a case study of a successful legal strategy for litigating against an ill-intentioned BPD family and their true-believer attorney.
July 10th, 2008 at 10:24 pm
Okay, I know I’m inviting MASSIVE ABUSE if I say this, given the outpouring of love and adoration from posters previous. But… I’m just a little bothered by the venom here. Especially by the new “B/F and G/Fs”. Laughingly referring to the ex’s as pigs, jabba, OLD and any other number of lovely descriptions. One of you even said an ex might be upset because her husband found someone younger and “hotter”. Uh… yeah. Ladies, all you beautiful, younger, saner G/Fs and live-ins… look, you’re all going to see your 30s. Maybe your 40s. God help you in your 50s. And you won’t be so “hot” anymore. Believe me. I was unbelievably hot in my 20s. 40’s been hard. And yes, I’m an ex. In fact, I’m called a “psycho ex”. But there’s two sides to the story ~ MY ex was a well-known meth head for years running. His meth addiction led him to late nights at strip clubs, which led to his hooking up with all number of nasty and unsavory, uh, hotter and younger women. I stayed there through all of it, thinking we’d turn a corner. He turned my life into a living hell for 4 straight years. He literally brought women into our home to SCREW in the other bedroom. I was so beaten down by then, I would just go to sleep. Did I scream? You betcha!! Did I act BPD? Oh yeah!! Did I finally pick myself up and leave?? Uh-huh. He moved in a girl about 15 years younger the next DAY. But I never called him again. Never drove by that house again. Sent him the divorce papers with a note that just said “sign”. After 10 years together, I walked away with less than nothing, and slept in my car for a month. Oh… he kept the house. The hidden bank accounts. The girlfriend. I kind of understand that there are always TWO SIDES to every story, and maybe some of you guys weren’t the peaches you claim. She probably IS a nightmare, but it just turns my stomach reading all these other “women” claim to be the sane, beautiful, younger replacement. I can’t wait. I’ll stay tuned 10 years from now. Oh… I’m married to a hot foreigner now, and it was the best thing I ever did.
July 11th, 2008 at 2:14 am
Mrs Sharif, Massive abuse? We never abuse anyone here. I will point out a few things to you. Number one is that you obviously bring certain feelings to this based on your deal with your ex. We don’t point out that I’m hot because it’s something WE care about, we point it out because it’s amusing to us that PEW believed LM would be miserable and alone for the rest of his life, and she was dead wrong.
I happen to be in my thirties, and I work my ass off to keep my body, while PEW gained 160 lbs. This isn’t a difference of getting older, the fact is she is a lazy slob. Images are easier to describe a person, and so we refer to well known images like jabba the hut to get our point across. It just makes life simpler, and frankly, it’s humorous in our opinion, which is really all the matters to us.
Second, of course there are always two sides to every story, we don’t hold back on that, and LM has admitted to things he did during the marriage, like screaming at the PEW. Of course, HE got therapy for it, she refuses to admit she needs help.
Third, I find it amusing that you mention your hot partner at the end while being ticked that we think we are hot.
I do hope you are happy in your new relationship.
August 1st, 2008 at 4:36 pm
Holy SH**!! I Fricken love this!!! And…I haven’t even gotten past “the cast”!!!
Sounds like PEW and the bane of my existence are cut from the same cloth!!!
Same manifestations of behavior, physical attributes…everything!
I know what I’ll be reading for some time to come!!!
August 7th, 2008 at 11:06 pm
I just stumbled upon this site in doing some legal research for a situation involving my PEW (great term - I’d never heard it before), and am amazed to learn that people have it worse than I do. Yes, there are two sides to every story, and yes, we all have done things we’re not proud of, but humor can and should help us through. My ex just introduced her new boyfriend - a three-time convicted violent offender who’s been in and out of prison for the last 15 years (I kid you not) - to our 5-year-old son. She assures me he’s “a really nice guy,” and she flipped - FLIPPED - at me when I expressed some concern and asked for more information about him. I didn’t used to think she was psycho, just depressed and searching for an identity. Now, I’m not so sure …
September 5th, 2008 at 11:01 pm
Oh, I am definitely liking this one. Seems to describe our situation as well. It has been 9 long years of dealing with the WENCH, but we are seeing a light at the end of the tunnel. The oldest 2 are now in college and love to spend time with us when ever they can swing it. The youngest is still in high school, but in another 2yrs…. we are sooooo outta here. Outta this state, and maybe even the country for awhile. She truly is a PEW and I can’t wait to follow along and hopefully gleen a bit of knowledge and a few tricks of the trade to dealing with PEWs
September 7th, 2008 at 5:35 pm
Wow, I’m so glad I found your site. My fiance’s PEW has been committing welfare fraud and purgery for about 8 years now, and the kids have lived with other relatives off and on for many years as she collects welfare and child support. Unfortunately for my fiance, he trusted her after they divorced and gave her support, most of the time without getting a receipt. She used this to her advantage when she applied for welfare and told them he had never paid a dime. he had some records, but not all, so the legal battles have been awful, especially since we can’t afford attorneys.
She’s a drug user who usually sets the legal wheel rolling when she runs out of money and needs more to support her habit. This isn’t speculation, but fact, and she’s been busted for possession with intent before.
This woman has stolen birthday and holiday money sent to the kids, right out of the cards they were sent in, and my fiance has had little to no access to the children for the last 8 years, and very little before that following the divorce.
To make matters worse, the PEW wields her father’s name like a weapon, letting all know she can’t be touched, that anything anyone can try to do to her will ‘go away’ because of his political connections. It matters not that he’s been long retired; the connections don’t ever retire. And her live-in boyfriend, who has a job while they collect welfare, his mother works for DHS so when anyone reports her for fraud, neglect, drug use around the children… it mysteriously disappears as if no one ever called.
She’s started yet another round of hell for us, and we’re facing eviction, losing our only car, and much, much more… because this time it’s bad enough to be forced to use what little we have for an attorney, and we’ll be in major debt most likely far into retirement age due to this.
We’ve felt SO alone, angry one minute and scared to death the next. Reading about others’ similar or exact same issues at least let’s us know we’re not alone in our battles with the PEW, but it’s also equally frightening to know that the prognosis is VERY VERY grim without funds for legal fees and bills, but especially grim due to a seemingly indifferent and/or biased “justice” system.
Thanks to all who have shared.
October 22nd, 2008 at 6:28 pm
How great is this??!! Just when I thought I was about to lose my freaking mind, I find this website to cheer me up. My husband’s ex was fine when we were dating. But she has turned into at total PEW . She took my stepdaughter out of state so that her and her girlfriend (we refer to them as Rosie & Helen) would have their civil union - during court ordered visiting days no less, They even bought my stepd a ring and all three exchanged it at the ceremony. Now she insists that they are a “family” and when we have her she insists that mys stepd bring a walkie talkie so that she can have constant communication with her. She is losing her mind.
Anyway, thanks for the laughs.
October 26th, 2008 at 10:19 pm
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October 28th, 2008 at 6:25 pm
Thanks for your work. I am sorry for what you have to go through, but it helps me know I am not alone in battling my PEW. I too, have a psycho ex-wife with undiagnosed BPD (she fits the DSM criteria 7 out of 9). She has since remarried, and in the words of Mr. T, “I pity the fool”. No kids with the woman, but we owned a business together. She owes me lots of money as I let her keep the business in order to obtain my freedom from the insanity. I have to keep an eye on her as she might sell the business and abscond with the proceeds. Someday I may just write it off as fruitless, but now I really could use the money.
November 1st, 2008 at 12:04 pm
LOL!
Thank you for this!
Ours is the “Cow”, her house is the “barn” (and yes its red lol) and when her name shows up on caller display it ‘rings’ to the tune of “Old MacDonald Had A Farm” lol!
November 11th, 2008 at 3:48 pm
OMG! I have one of these too. Just had to deal with her again this morning. I have too many names for her much like satan does. Anyway, I just found your site and I’m intrigued.
November 11th, 2008 at 5:10 pm
I can’t tell you how much I wish I found this site YEARS ago. The kids are all grown but the BS still doesn’t stop.. My husband and I don’t even live in the same state and try to have as little contact as possible with the PEW but whenever she digs herself a nice little hole the phone starts ringing and the court papers start appearing. Funny how after 15 years its still all my husbands fault..though it does make the rounds to being my fault on occassion. I do so hate to be left out.
To learn that you all have the same issues… and the same feelings surrounding these issues has been a wonderful read for me. I can’t wait till my husband gets home - this will be so good for him. We’re not alone! Woo hoo!
November 12th, 2008 at 1:19 am
This site is great. Infact, I truly feel better to read the stories on the site. It’s comforting to know I’m currently only dealing with a gready, spiteful bitch that wants to keep me broke and unable to adaquitely care for my son. Life ain’t all that bad…yet!
December 8th, 2008 at 10:50 am
My husband and I have been going though a similar situation with his ex. They have 2 pre-teen children together. The eldest has been abused verbally, and possible sexually. The verbal abuse has ended because mom is using the feel sorry for me technique on her, but I guess that is a form of abuse too. The eldest has come along way since they were removed from moms, due to 2 neglect charges and a pending abuse charge. Mom took the children to 72 different Doctor appointments in 14 months. The reports indicated nothing is wrong with the children A blatant attempt to keep the children from dad, family and school. Mom has taken the children shoplifting with her and has been arrested 3 times in front of the children. The children have been used as spies and interrogated when they go to moms.
My husbands ex has dragged him to court for not paying her bills, calling her house before 9am. She has called CPS the report said one of the children said I keep straight liquor in Pepsi bottles with in reach of the children (Back fired attempt to discredit dad) and that my nine year old has become increasingly violent (contrary to the schools report).
Currently we have 140 pages of emails that are less than helpful for her. 70 voice mail messages, needless to say they are mostly threats and not very nice.
I really wish husbands Ex would get help for the sake of all of us, especially the children. I believe she has anti-social personality disorder. The psychological evaluation said that it would not rule out a personality disturbance and mentioned PAS 3 times.She also attempted to fool the MMPI test
Needless to say we are getting pretty annoyed with all this bad behavior.
December 8th, 2008 at 11:01 am
We do have a name for the Ex and it is C. Her first name and any thing else you can imagine. A really hate the word for C but…
December 30th, 2008 at 4:39 am
OMG - this is my story. We are in the 1% club. Mine’s going on 4 years, been in court 4 times in the last 12 months defending fatherhood from a magistrate who clearly encourages the continued conflict. I remain focused on my kids, but one cannot imaging the emotional and financial terrorism that has taken place and continues. How do we get the courts to see this? Absurdity has become a way of life. God Bless.
January 20th, 2009 at 1:11 am
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January 22nd, 2009 at 7:41 pm
Ive been going through all this shit for 2 1/2 years now and I thought I was the only one. So many comments and stories are near perfect copies. UNBELIEVABLE !!!
I read a book called “Blood Stain” by Peter Lalor. Its a true story about an Aussie woman who skins and then decapitates and cooks the head of her ex, because he wants to leave her. All the way through it I thought OMG she sounds like my PEW. Towards the end it says she has Borderline Personality Disorder. It lists about 9 points to BPD and says if you have 5 you’ve got it. I easily gave my PEW 7 of them. Now I find this website and see im not the only one. Slightly different laws down here with custody etc, because my 2 are 14 and 16 they are allowed a say in the custody. The PEW has brain washed them so badly my solictor advised me not to waste any more money going to court. Now I live and wait until they are 18. I get to talk to them at xmas and birthdays if PEW is in a good mood. They live 500 miles away as well. At last count I have about 200 SMS text messages and over 100 emails of the PEW’s ranting and ravings about me and my new partner, who she blames for the bust up although I didnt meet her until 3 months after I walked out on the psycho. One thing is certain though, putting up with all her shit now is definately easier than putting up with it when I was married to her. I look forward to spending some time here for a bit of therapy…Cheers
January 23rd, 2009 at 10:16 am
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February 2nd, 2009 at 9:22 pm
OMG, reading the cast of characters ssounds much like my ex. But insteadofa sister its her husband and brother in law. I have had to deal with hercrap for 11 years and its only getting worse as my youngest approaches 18. Tonight was the last straw and my wife found htis site while searching for legal options in dealing with her/them.
Like a lot of others my relationship with my 2 kids has suffered but alas I could write a sad novel on the stuff I have had to endure. Thanks for puttingthis out there it is nice to know I am not he only one dealing with a PEW.
February 17th, 2009 at 12:39 pm
TO Mrs. Sharif
First of all; I acnowledge the hardhsip you had to go through.
Many of us boyfriends, girlfriends and live in-s ARE in our 30’s 40’s, many of us have been in previous asshole relationships where the asshole was doing some bimbo in the next room. To lump us in the same category as the 20 self righteous bimbos would be wrong. I am 34, yet feeling probably better about myself than ever. Being with a loving, normal partner helps. Being with my current loving partner is my choice. His ex is making life miserable for us. People need to talk about their pain and anger, but they cannot blame everyone else. This woman has never ever gone to therapy, ever taken responsibility. She acts as if her daughter’s father is her personal slave. She tries to make him do her laundry. Meanwhile he does almost everything for this child. Takes her to the doctors, takes and picks her up from school every single day etc…
Mrs. Sharif, we are woman close in age to you, with similar painful experinces as you, yet we do not go around hating. Or sit back and act like a naive 20 year old bimbo.
I have watched my sociopath ex marring a woman 10 years younger within a year of our breakup, so I am not naive about anger and pain. BUT, I do not feel that I need to make my sociopathic ex’s life miserable, seek revenge etc because I feel angry. Life goes on. That new woman will soon find out who he really is.
So next time please stay away from lumping all new spouses and partners in the 20some naive category. Thanks!
February 19th, 2009 at 1:53 pm
Wow, stumbled onto this site while looking for advice on disciplining for non-costodial parents. Glad I found you and all the others dealing with PEWS. We call ours “ill-wind” she is borderline and matches most of the characteristics described. I have found from experience that my PEW is a bully and the only way out is to say NO, as often as necessary. We now communicate by voicemail and email only thank god. She hates my wife and has tried to turn the kids against us. My 13 yr old son is quite normal but I fear that my 11 yr old daughter will turn out just like her mother. PEW told everyone we split because I was gay (while I was dating my wife) all the while trying to get me back, PEW has gone through at least 8 failed relationships, including one marriage, since our divorce. My son is tired of it and wants to come live with us…finally
March 4th, 2009 at 1:05 am
I am totally addicted! Thanks for sharing!
March 11th, 2009 at 6:53 pm
Me too. She’s all of the above and more. But what do we do about it? Fathers everywhere are getting screwed by these women. The family court laws are completely unconstitutional with regard to men. If she has a hoo-hoo, she wins (and I’m a woman)! But because it’s state run, federal intervention isn’t likely. I refuse to believe there’s nothing we can do about this. This system has got to be revamped, and quick! (Ladies, don’t get me wrong, I know there are a ton of deadbeat dads out there as well. I just want the laws applied equally to all deadbeats regardless of sex).
March 18th, 2009 at 12:36 pm
Carl Says:
March 18th, 2009 at 12:21 pm
Great site.! I too have been through a very similar situation. The cast of Characters the same but their names have been changed to identify the guilty!
I want to say to all you fathers… there is hope. If you document like this website says, and do your best to do right… you can put your children in a place to be successful. I have been seperated for 6 years and divorced for 5. What started out as weekend dad now has full custody of all three of his children with NO PHYSICAL contact with their mother. On top of that, she pays me 1000.00+ a month and owes me 50k+ (I will never see it) of the original divorce settlement that was given to her based on her lies and half truths. you can do right by your children. My kids are happy, healthy and well adjusted. GO FOR IT. It can only get better!
One Happy Single Father of 3 beautiful and well adjusted children!
March 26th, 2009 at 11:49 am
I feel your pain. I guess I’m lucky in that my PB (psycho B@#$%) and I only have contact thru our attys. I will say this though, you are extremely lucky that you have a judge that is reasonable. My nightmare has been going 3 1/2 years and there is no end in sight. I have never once had a reasonable judgement from a family court judge. As a matter of fact, The Supreme Court of my state has just accepted juridiction of part of my case concerning relocation. My family is spending avg $2000/month on lawyers just to try to maintain some sembalance of contact with my son and we are wasting our money as I don’t think the court will ever provide me a fair judgement. I was once told if I was an hour late returning my son from visitation, the only contact I would have with him over the next 16yrs was by mail, yet repeated denial of visitation by PEW hasn’t even resulted in a verbal admonishment to cease and desist. I din’t see him for 5 weeks once.
PEW had a medical degree but refused to even work enough to make minimum wage, court verdict, we understand its hard to work and raise a child. Me they assigned extra income far above what I was really making and then assigned punative child support which amounted to 75% of my actual take home pay. She went back to work full time the day after the divorce. She lived on $3300/month after taaxes, I lived on $700/month. Wanna know the real kicker, they continue to try to have me jailed for back child support that was assigned retroactively during the final divorce hearing. So far they havent jailed me but I too am a victim of the economy and have had a significant reduction in pay so I get farther and farther behind every month. My support modification has been pending for over 4 months now and will take another 2-3 months to get in front of a judge.
Oh and by the way, my family court has allowed my PEW to relocate 1500 miles away and as of 9months of arguing in the Anti-Family court system, I still have absolutely no visitation ordered, therefore she doesnt even allow me to see my son.
April 4th, 2009 at 5:01 pm
OMG, I never thought that someone else was going through or had gone through the same things as my hubby and I. The things that these ex’s have done is so out there, I thought I was in a movie. Ultimately due to the courts bias and financial difficulty, we moved out of state away from the children and the PEW. She hooked up and got pregnant by a felon, spouse abuser and generally not a nice guy. All of the things she had said that my husband did to her were all done now by another man..It is amazing to me that even after all that and 9 years time we are still fighting with her. She thought that last year she would get her child support raised due to the children reaching age 12. Well she got it raised to a fair amount (surprising to us) but my husband got the children as tax deductions. ONe last year and the additional this year. SO we sent her an email requesting the other social security number and we got this response “you are not current in your support (due to a job loss) and so I have taken the children as deductions and will continue to do so (in violation of the court order).” So not learning from the last 9 years my hubby responds that there is nothing in the order that stipulates current or not current payment of support..Which led to the following response “there was an error in the order and the prosecuting atty has reviewed the transcrips and found the error, so you can either let me claim the kids or be held in contempt and go to jail for non payment.” Of course this is not true. I can not wait for her to get the modification paper work next week due to my hubby’s unemployment. And please don’t get me wrong, I would never want the kids to be without the things that they need, but due to her refusal to work she has been on welfare and continues to be on welfare so the money goes every month to the state for repayment of benefits.
May 8th, 2009 at 2:58 pm
We call ours “Crack Whore”. I am so happy to have found this website. I thought we were the only family having to deal with a PEW. Actually PEW fits her to a T also - she grooms dogs for a living and smells accordingly.
June 16th, 2009 at 1:37 pm
Oh wow! I love this site. It reminds me that there are others in this situation. My BPDXH is called Jackass. He is and forever will be Jackass, though F**ktard and other names come and go depending on my frustration level. My mother has predicted that the drama will never be over unless he is dead or in jail, and <> I have to agree with her. Yesterday was a 35+ text rant about demanding to speak with me (against a court-ordered criminal RO) for the sake of the kids. I turned my phone off. Everything Jackass says is a lie, and everything else follows that first rule. Good luck to everyone in this unfortunate situation. The high road is WAY harder, but we are all trying to do the right thing by our children.
June 26th, 2009 at 6:40 am
Thank you so much for this site- I was seriously on the verge of a fit when I stumbled upon it… We deal with so much similar crap its unreal however we have custody because our PEW decided to get pregnant and move out of state. I’d love to say that the distance makes it easier but it doesn’t….. Good luck to ya’ll - I’m going to read some more posts:)
July 10th, 2009 at 8:59 am
SingleHwnDad:
Oh yeah? Well hear this: I KNEW a woman for 9 months, dated her most of that. She attacked me more than once, was drunk most evenings, attempted suicide when I left her (3 months before bye-bye), then accused me of crap when she lost it again, after she found me emailing a buddy about her crappy behaviour. Her 26 year marriage to a guy that was spending their mortgage money went South and she latched onto me, thinking I would buy a house with her and take her around the world. Yeah he’s a biker. She is drunk daily, stoned with her son after work before she drives home, and has the education of a 13 year old. Really!
Court lasted 499 days (going back monthly to see if SHE had submitted HER evidence for over a year), and it cost me $150k.
Been single 5 years soon after that, after having dated a cutter, and a nutbar whose mother is some controlling bitch.
Yes I know not all of them are like that. How do I know? They are the married ones. Also, they don’t come with floating balloon signs over their head indicating their mental status.
July 14th, 2009 at 3:57 pm
I really feel for the ones trapped in all the awful toxic crap with no end in sight.
I think the ones that slip out of an abuser’s grasp are those that had a lot of $$$, strong support that the abuser couldn’t poison or infiltrate, and simply knew what to do when things inevitably went wrong. It helped if there were no children or anything that would “tie things up”.
July 23rd, 2009 at 7:46 pm
I can’t believe that there are others in my situation. I am the new wife of a great man with a crazy ex-wife. They have two kids together and she gave over physical custody for a car. But, even after that she still can’t let anyone in our family have one day without drama. She has to bipolar or have a personality disorder or something because no normal person acts this way. Even though they were already leagally separated with a divorce in the works when I met my now husband, she still believes that I am the cause of their divorce. I say believe because I think that she believes her own lies.
July 26th, 2009 at 9:45 pm
My ex is so insidious in her emotional abuse that I am surprised that I was ever able to come to my senses. I was isolated from my own family because of a hard childhood, I became close to hers. She placed the mantle of ‘adoptive parent’ for our two kids very quickly. She turned to other men and her family for emotional support and would often lie to garner sympathy. Where I needed loyalty and to know that I had priority in a relationship, I instead was graced with a never forgiven list of wrongs, always tabulated, lies that became truth through repetition and ptsd that will take a long time to overcome.
My current partner and I have dubbed her Domo-Kun
My ex is so insidious in her emotional abuse that I am surprised that I was ever able to come to my senses. I was isolated from my own family because of a hard childhood, I became close to hers. She placed the mantle of ‘adoptive parent’ for our two kids very quickly. She turned to other men and her family for emotional support and would often lie to garner sympathy. Where I needed loyalty and to know that I had priority in a relationship, I instead was graced with a never forgiven list of wrongs, always tabulated, lies that became truth through repetition and ptsd that will take a long time to overcome.
My current partner and I have dubbed her Domo-Kun
My experience:
http://domostareintosoul.ytmnd.com/
http://mercilessbutcher.ytmnd.com/
August 11th, 2009 at 1:56 am
My wife and I call my Ex simply “nutjob”. It’s so normal that we sometimes accidentally do it when refering to her to others (the few times it comes up on our end).
She’s done all the above basically. We also deal with my wife’s ex husband, who is not quite as bad (more of a deadbeat), but his GIRLFRIEND of ten years is quite the nutjob. After he took my wife to court over my step-child (her child), we started getting all craziness from him and ESPECIALLY his quasi-wife/girlfriend.
I told my wife, now, after years of dealing with mine…”Congratulations, you’ve now got your OWN nutjob”.
Hilarious. What this is about folks, are people with no other purpose in life who want to exercise control.
The text, the phone call example this guys lays out, is NOT about the child, or about caring, its about SHOWING that they can invade your life and otherwise “demand” a response. We don’t play into it, with anyone.
August 30th, 2009 at 9:24 pm
I have a question for LM’s BF (boyfriend) - is the story that would curl everyone’s hair the one where you told PEW that you were in love with LM and that you were pretty sure he was gay because he was rubbing his johnson all over you at your sister’s wedding (when their baby was 8 months old)? Yeah that’s a good one….if I were you I’d stay out of it, cause PEW has some good stories about you too!!
August 31st, 2009 at 11:12 am
Johnson? Who says “johnson” outside of grade school… junior high at the latest? Johnson? Really?
August 31st, 2009 at 2:35 pm
You may not be aware, Liz, that you are not improving your reputation in the eyes of the readers by posting this kind of thing to the website on which you are discussed.
That’s just a bit of advice. Also, you may wish to avoid demonstrating the behaviors of which they accuse you–such as blackmail, yes? Threatening to humiliate people by ostensibly revealing their secrets to the wider public is NOT going to make you look less manipulative and destructively angry.
August 31st, 2009 at 2:35 pm
Wow Mister M., Liz has one on you. We all know that there are a ton of married men out there that love to rub their “johnson” on other men in open sight of guests in a public event (as opposed to using descretion).
I want to teach Liz the same thing I’m tempted to teach my son….If you are going to lie, at least put some effort into it and make it believable.
September 7th, 2009 at 5:32 pm
i’m hooked! i need an outlet so that i can know and feel that i’m not alone in this fight against the undiagnosed bipolar. i’m in a relationship with a wonderful man who also has a psychotic ex-wife. i’m the gf, on the way to becoming the new mrs. over the last year and a half of our relationship, i’ve given her quite a few nicknames, all of which are not appropriate for public purposes BUT have now settled with just p.a.m. (psychopathic *sshole mom). both appropriate for public and humorous purposes.
September 8th, 2009 at 12:23 am
I’m new here, but unfortunately not new to the hot topics. I am grateful for so much…the laughs, the “I’m not alone!” thoughts, the nail-biting suspense and the good, sound advice from REAL people. Yes, I deal with my own PEW and MM and PP. Yes, I believe my PEW has a real mental illness and I do pray for her just as much as I pray for strength not to choke her. I guess I refrain because she does a pretty good job of choking herself. Always making one poor decision after another…but sadly with my defenseless stepdaughter in tow.
September 19th, 2009 at 9:32 am
Great site! There is another site for stuff like this that I love, at steptalk.org It is a forum format and lots of great people, info and support.
September 23rd, 2009 at 9:23 pm
Are you SURE you weren’t married to the same psycho as my DH? The cast of characters could be the same as the FC (by the way, FC doesn’t stand for “Fat Cow”-which she is-or Fried Chicken) in that her dad’s a racist ex cop who married someone just a few months older than the FC–’cause he’s such a stud.
Because she didn’t want her son to attend a particular school, the FC made an allegation of sexual abuse against a teacher so that her son could go to the school that she wanted him to go to.
Just discovered that she forged DH’s signature on loan docs while they were married.
Oh, and did I mention the Slick? He’s the eight time convicted felon that the FC’s currently married to…..charming, isn’t it?
December 5th, 2009 at 8:38 pm
Not to offend anyone but I think you guys have it all wrong. My PEW tried to ruin my life by using my kids against me, by turning my family against me and manipulating my friends. She even managed to convince my ex-landlord to spy on me.
I figured out the best way to solve the problem. It has worked for me but it is not without consequences. I simply cut off all communication. I don’t visit my kids. I gave up everything just so that I can have a chance. How can I be a good father if I am eternally miserable and constantly watching over my shoulder? I figured, correctly I may add, that my kids will soon figure out what she is and come back towards me. They have quickly figured out that they were being poisoned against me. See, I never criticized her in front of them. I only focused on the positive.
I am in the process of rebuilding my relationship with them. We are a bit distant with each other for the moment but at least neither of our lives is being poisoned by her. I took all her power away from her when I stopped paying attention to her and her bullshit. When I stopped allowing her to abuse my emotions through my children, she lost all power over me. She had no choice but to stop.
You may see me as heartless but at least I am not subjected to the psychological abuse most of you suffer on a daily basis. I told my kids that I love them and that I miss them but that Daddy can’t visit for now but that they are always on my mind. It did hurt at first but as the black cloud lifted, I say the rays of sunshine. I can think and act clearly. I may have a chance at a normal relationship with my children. I may have a normal chance at a relationship with a normal woman.
I am not advising that you should all abandon your children. Just that sometimes, the best solution is to remove the spotlight from your attention seeking PEW. In the end all they want is your attention.
December 6th, 2009 at 2:14 pm
Wanderer, I think that was a very brave comment to make. DH and I have had this conversation and we totally empathize with your position; so do our extended families who love my step-children. We’re fighting for sole custody of them, currently, interstate. We have discussed the possibility of having to “abandon” them if the custody action doesn’t end in our favor and put some explicit restrictions on PEW. Sadly, because the child support would increase to an unmanageable level (more than she EVER brought home from a job),if we lost, we wouldn’t be able to afford the extra $5,000 per year in travel costs for ONE to TWO (alternating years) times of visitation (they can’t travel alone, because of behavior). More importantly: the mental abuse inflicted on the children by the PEW is effectively alienating them from their father, making them angry and suspicious, and causing anxiety-depression disorders; the lies and manipulation that they are trained in, will turn them into people who we probably won’t want to know in the future; the tug-of-war is so damaging to them, we wonder if it would be better to give them some sort of consistency and just stay gone, if we don’t win and get PEW’s abuive behavior buffered. The kids are taught to view us as intrusions, just good for buying them things; yet when they’re with us for a time, they relax and become CHILDREN (until PEW calls & “Me me me’s” them). PEW has had seven marriages, four children and three legal baby-daddies (four, biologically, since DH just found out that one’s DNA doesn’t appear to match his: an issue we’ll reserve if a desperate Hail Mary is in order). PEW lives, solely, on three separate baby-daddy welfare checks, plus unemployment–in the Midwest. We’re trying to make a living on the West Coast: much more expensive, yet the fixed CS percentage is the same. (BTW, SHE left the family home with the kids while DH was deployed.) She now calls herself “fortunate enough to be able to stay home.” Her oldest child is failing out of high school and has emotional/psychological problems. The neighbors don’t let their kids play with hers; they call her and her oldest “creepy”; they’ve heard her screaming verbal attacks on various husbands. The children have suffered medical,dental and special needs neglect for years: all problems that my husband has had to fight to find and fix (since she kept him off the authorization forms, doctor-shopped and successfully concealed special needs for a time). We have her journal pages and video (obtained legally, by 7th husband), illustrating domestic battery and child abuse, in her own words! She tries to keep her children dependent and centered on her (typical BPD). Her seventh husband is currently divorcing her and fighting for custody of their baby. All of her marriages have consisted of chaos, if not violence (by her). We have SO MUCH work to do, to help these kids heal and grown, if we win custody (and we DO have a VERY strong case, witnesses & child-custody-evaluator recommendation). But there is always that chance that the system will screw these kids, too; and in that case, we’re afraid we’d have to say good-bye to them (and formally deny paternity of the youngest, in order to be repaid something and survive, financially). If we lose custody, the children don’t have a father, anyway. It’s an absolutely SICK and HEARTBREAKING reality.
December 18th, 2009 at 4:00 pm
Meet The Wolf. Started out as Bitch Wolf….Histrionic Disorder with a dollop of BPD and a pinch of NPD = Poster Girl. A tiny firey harby specimen, with bulging bug-eyes; and like the praying mantis she resembles, I’m almost certain that she eats the head off of every male she mates with. (They should count their blessings). An elusive creature when we seek information or knowledge regarding the beautiful little boy she loves to use whenever she covets more control, attention or money. Obviously you’re not curing cancer, but you are the morphine drip that can make this sickness tolerable! Rather than continue to smash my face into my keyboard and/or the wall in frustration, I have finally found that oh-so-elusive miracle called “HOPE”
It’s a travesty that there are SOOOOO many of us, but this is an absolute LIFELINE for keeping our sanity. Everyone’s story has some bit of very useful information. THANK YOU for putting this together!!!
December 21st, 2009 at 6:21 pm
In re: NVRSTL’s post, above: Are all or most BPD’s tiny, bug-eyed and preying mantis-looking? Maybe because many have comorbid eating/anxiety disorders? My PEW-in-law looks like a weathered, scary, malnourished skeletor, too. Not trying to be funny, really. I’m wondering if they all look tore-up, physically.
December 29th, 2009 at 1:33 pm
MrsSmitty: I realize we can’t make blind stereotypical sweeps regarding these women, but I firmly believe that the energy it takes to live in a constant state of hate and anger, morphs them into shells of humanity. The men look hagard and menacing and the women carry their venom around like weights from their sholders. They THRIVE off of misery… and not just their ex’s - they need their own unhappiness to stay burning in order to continue to justify the selfish, hateful acts they dole out. In my very limited opinion, they tend to come in two forms. The bony remains they consider very becoming, OR the 3XL version that feeds (or drinks) itself - LITERALLY - well past capacity to fill the hole of misery they cherish.
And while we’re on the subject, HOLIDAY #2 in a row that the Wolf ‘decided’ that SS wasn’t coming back to dad’s house (for sched. visitaion - it was his weekend) and the two days of makeup time “ain’t happenin’”…..We’ll add that to the other three Motions for Contempt that are already pending…Just glad that I got to watch my husband sob and the sadness and tension that comes from every interaction with this vile creature, filled our home yet again. The fact that we get to donate MORE money to the OUTOFF*CKINGCONTROL court system (IL)and wait at least 6 months to get those two days back, is just icing on the rat poison-filled cake.
Sigh. Anyone have advise on how the f*ck we’re supposed to “let it go”, “live in the now”, or “appreciate what you HAVE”?? OTHER than Zoloft. :/
December 29th, 2009 at 4:53 pm
NVRSTL~Great observations and insight. I certainly can’t tell you the “how.” All I can give you is my empathy and encouragement. We’re fighting ours in Illinois, too. What county? Ours is in Macon. I have no horror stories thus far, but it will be interesting to compare notes as we move toward our day in court. I know of a Children’s-Father’s Rights group that’s new in Macon, if you’re nearby and interested. They already have some proposed legislation submitted, to clarify language in the child-custody statutes.
December 29th, 2009 at 9:45 pm
as with all of you we are in the same situation…. may I ask if anyone’s ever come out of this alive? (I’m totally serious) and what about the children do we Let King Solomon aka the court system cut them in half because the PEW believes its in their best interest or do we walk away and leave casualties of war behind. does anyone have any success stories or are we stuck with someone who has tried to kill, steal and destroy us and our children. Get this the PEW had the kiddos yesterday and didnt even spend time with them she sent them to a friends house for her 24 hour visitation
March 4th, 2010 at 12:12 pm
My new wife says I am Job because I am the most patient man in the world. I am getting close to the end of this horrible situation. I am 48 with a daughter that is a freshman in college and a son that is in the 8th grade. My daughter talks to me almost daily from college where she is on an academic scholarship. She is knows who she is and where she is going. When she needs advice, she comes to her dad for advice because she knows PEW is not able to help. She loves PEW but has very little respect for her. My son is gaining the social skills from step mom and dad. He is on the same path as my daughter to success. I am here because I never would give up on my children. I want to see them have a good life as adults. BTW: My PEW’s mother is codependent. My PEW’s father was sexually abusive of the girls and went to prison for 20 years on a murder for hire scheme. I understand this story very well. Anybody in this situation should never give up trying, use every avenue possible to “cage” the PEW and look forward to them being the age of majority.
March 7th, 2010 at 8:26 pm
To Nic,
please read my previous entry. I don’t know if it’s really a success story, but I got sole custody of my son. Also, I’ve seen a few posts in here about guys trying to get a psych eval on the PEW. I didn’t try to do that, but her attorney and parents did, and the end result was that she was voluntarily proclaimed mentally incompetent (she’s an alcoholic and that was enough if it’s voluntary). Helped me in getting custody, but hurt tremendously in alimony and support. So now she doesn’t have to work, even though she quit her job in the middle of divorce proceeding, and SS says she can work. And since I’m still working, guess who gets to support her?
If I had the choice, I wouldn’t get an eval. Just prove that’s she’s a mean bitch of low character who isn’t a good influence for the kids. And if your kids are old enough to realize it, they’ll essentially be able to choose who they live with.
Good luck.
March 9th, 2010 at 12:42 am
Wow…the characters sound JUST LIKE US, from ages differences to personality descriptions.