The Psycho Ex Wife

Well, for me it was the start of a nightmare or a 15-year stint in hell. See, we had a son together. She, of course, had “residential custody”. [She] received child support and received permission to make my life miserable. Well, first off it didn’t occur to her that I just lost my son. She only saw that now she could be [with] her new beau. So, she promptly moved in with him. Mind you, I do see my son regularly. I get a phone call one evening, “he’s going to hurt me, please help.” Well, off I go, more to protect my son not her. Well, after a week he’s gone.

So, she moves on only to find out she has a new man. Guess that’s why the last one was upset. Well, she moves in with the new one taking my son with her. Well, at this point I investigated whether or not I could get custody of my son. Yep, you guessed it, the courts would hear nothing of it. Well, she was with this one for two-years and again here comes the phone call. We need help. Man, what’s the woman doing, I think, and of course, because it’s my son, I help. Stupid or not? Well, things now are changing. She is becoming greedy. You’ll see as I go on.

Well, not three-months later - a new man. Yep, she moves-in within a week. I suggest to her that she should wait, man, I’ll never say that again. “You don’t give me enough money to live by ourselves” was her answer. I was incredulous. Why do say to that? Your son standing right there. Well, this man doesn’t last too long with her, either. Two-years. Yep, you guessed it - a phone call. Need help. Well, I’m no sucker, I thought, you’re going to have to do this one on your own. Okay, your son will stay at my mother’s while I do this. If you saw her mother’s house, you would understand. Yep, off I go.

Well, it seemed things where going in the right direction - she got an apartment. A guy moved in with her. I think this one lasted six-months. Man, I’m getting beside myself, [but] what the hell can I do? I contact a lawyer [and] lay down the story I’ve told you thus far.

I get, “Well, the courts are not going look kindly on her but they will not give you custody of your child.” Man, imagine how that makes a man feel. Oh, women and the courts don’t care about how men feel.

A little about me: I’m by no means perfect, but far better than her. There are many details I’ve left out to shorten the story on her side. I’ll only say she is very materialistic. Me, I’m simple I can live simply. Anyhow, I lost a couple jobs during this time and got behind on child support, but I did make and am making up the payments that I missed. I’ve never remarried. Not to say I haven’t had relationships, but never moved in or had them live with me.

Perhaps that is why I never remarried. Or maybe it was the amount of child support I have to pay based on my salary. Trust me when I say I got nailed hard. By anyone else’s standard you wouldn’t believe it. So, at every turn, I mean every turn, weekly, my son had a problem she needed money for. A stuffy nose here, therapy there, you name it - she came up with a reason to extract money from me. Perhaps the women I had in life couldn’t handle that. Yes, I love my child very much. I’d give my life for his if it came to it. As you can see I’m fairly simple. Oh, and yes I finally found a woman that wants me no matter what, but I can’t let her close right now. You’ll understand a little later.

Well while she was in her apartment, she had about three guys move in and out. She met a man that, believe it or not I actually liked this guy. She ended up marrying him. (I WARNED HIM) Their marriage did not go well and [they] divorced. I’m still friends with him and he keeps telling me, “you warned me.” Well, their marriage ended and my son had had enough. “Dad, I’m coming to live with you.” He’s 17 now. Now has been with me for five months. I’ve filed to have the child support stop to her. She disagrees and wants the money. I’ve explained to her how it’s going to work. Boy, you would have thought the world cracked in two. She has never tried to make me feel so guilty about anything before. I just told her like she has done to me - it’s about our son. I think now you understand why I can’t have anyone close right now. Just so many things going on that I just don’t have time for a relationship. My child graduates this year, so I have everything connected with that. Also, I’m changing jobs because of the housing slow down.

Do you think that a judge will grant me custody, as well as having all the child support I’ve paid since he moved in with me applied to arrears and have her pay child support, which I really don’t want, just have it applied to arrears? Can all of it be wrapped in one case? Well, the end for now. I’ll finalize the story at the end of July.