The Psycho Ex Wife

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I’m jumping ahead a little bit, to just after the divorce was filed (April 2004), to feature another mindless email rant offered up by “Aunt PP” - my nutcase ex sister-in-law. There aren’t many of them. That’s because, even when things weren’t a complete disaster, I didn’t have very much cause to talk to her anyway. Her life was just too full of chaos for me to allow her any closer than arm’s length, and even that was often too close for comfort.

Now, the strangest thing about this email is that it’s totally unsolicited. What I mean by that is - I didn’t then and I don’t now have any clue what precipitated it. Therefore, my only conclusion is that it was the by-product of some figment of PEW’s imagination. While what she writes, specifically the part about the murder-suicide thing, makes me laugh inappropriately, I never said that, didn’t intimate that, and it seriously didn’t ever cross my mind.

Hi LM,

You have enough family problems….luckily your mother was so forthcoming with so many horror stories from your youth……You should just be concentrating on doing the RIGHT thing, once and for all for all concerned…..after all, you’ve got you motor cycle, don’t you?

The whole diatribe is beyond bizarre. It’s a mish-mash of random thoughts that have no relevance on the matter at hand. It’s as if she needed to flex her big-sisterly muscles and put me “on notice” that she is going to stick up for her. Great. With allies like that…

She has absolutely no clue about my childhood. Why? Because she cites my mother as the source! While both of my parents had occasion to cross the line when it came to discipline, they raised 4 pretty successful children during the process. Mom and Dad went through a contentious divorce when we were in our teens and trust me when I tell you that dear mom has a tendency to grossly embellish and over-dramatize her “horror stories.” Certainly, both of my parents were both quite loving, showed their affection regularly, and I can assure you that my mother isn’t going to be telling any of those stories as they related to my father.

As for CAM (one of my brothers), after his first-born daughter was brought home, he had some trouble adjusting to the newborn baby. He questioned his ability to handle everything. His wife, my SIL, called me one morning to come over and assist. I blew off work that day and rushed over to have a talk with him. At no time was ending any relationship even remotely an issue. Neither CAM nor wife seemed prepared for what was going to happen when they brought the child home… and they were both a nervous wreck - especially him. It was no big deal. Now with a pair of daughters, their relationship seems to be going along quite well and the kids are great!

As for the balance, we can start with the delusions:

- Neither her nor her family wished any such thing. Phone threats, email threats, direct threats, and all of the rest of the weird stuff they would come to do demonstrated that they wanted nothing more than for me to disappear off the face of the earth.

- Despite the claims that she would never hurt people she loved, there are several identity thefts of family members, knock-down drag-outs with PEW, assaults on our children, among other situations which fly in the face of her claim.

- I’d be specific about a couple of the other rants except that they make such little sense that it’s not worth wasting any more of my time.

One thing she was correct about though… her family members’ mental defects and documented behaviors didn’t seem to be relevant regarding the children. Hell, even PEW’s actions and behaviors apparently didn’t (and still don’t) matter, but she has been exposed for the hostile, litigious high-conflict combatant that I’ve always told the court she would be. Thank goodness (for now) Judge Contempt’s rulings have begun to reflect that recognition. Here’s hoping that if they are needed - she continues to rule accordingly.