PAS: Stole Passports and Fled With The Children

Well your problems sound very similar to my own. Currently I am looking for very good online resources on how to deal with my sociopathic ex in regards to our custody case.

This is a nightmare. Outright lies, manipulation, etc. I do not need to go through it all in detail as I am sure you are already too familiar with all of this from your own experience. However, one thing I would like to add is that he has a strange habit of sending me faxes. Very bizarre faxes that accuse me of all kinds of things, tells me my behavior is harmful to our children, says that I owe him and his girlfriend money (she was his mistress at the end of our relationship), oh and the list goes on and on.

At first, I wondered what the hell was he doing putting such bizarre comments into writing! Well he was inputting these faxes in with his "evidence" to the court. He seems to think that if he puts something in writing no matter how bizarre, then the court will believe it and it will make me look bad.

Actually, I received one of those charming faxes today outlining what a bad mother I am, my cooking is not as good as his, that I told my daughter I did not like her drawing, that I harass and interrogate our children, do not show up for visitation (all lies) and the best part well that must be the sex video of me that he says is now online (there isn't one)!

I am dealing with a sociopath who is making my life hell furthermore this battle is not being fought in the U.S. (where perhaps I would have more rights) but in Spain where I am a foreigner. And this is being fought in Spain because my ex stole the children's passports when we separated and I have been unable to replace them because you need both parents signatures to replace a child's passport! Sorry to give you so much info (once I got started my anger would not let me stop) but do take some small consolation that you and DW are not alone (sorry - I know that is not really much consolation). Good luck to you both. For a sociopath there is NO sane reasoning for what they do.

~H.

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