PAS: She's a Self-Centered Control Freak

It is amazing how our society has been set up to protect a female just because she says so. I am caught up in a custody battle that will know no end. I fear that it will not even end when my youngest son turns 18 and the ex-wife should technically no longer be an issue.

My two son's so-called loving mother is the most self-centered control freak I have ever encounterd. I am embarrassed and saddened that I ever married the woman. I had dreams and she destroyed them. Even now she does so by using my two innocent sons against me.

She took it upon herself, even though the custody plan orders state differently, to take our 10-year old to a psychiatrist, stating he had problems because me. She attends every third session giving her biased scenerio of the situation. She told him that he was adopted. (I adopted him at age 3 when I married his mom.) He was told not to tell me because the courts would get mad. He was afraid that I wouldn't love him anymore if he knew. She tells them both that they can't play summer sports this year becasue I won't take them to their practices and games. They were told that they can't go on a Disney Cruise because I won't sign passport papers although I asked her for more info since she has lied several times about taking them out of state. Now she wants to take them out of the country! And all these trips and vacations (ski trips etc) are all done on $18,000 year she reports and she states to the boys can't afford things. She nickles and dimes me to death yet tells them she "strapped."

Both the boys have been told not to tell me that her boyfreind lives there with them. Even though I hired a private investigator to prove she was lying, she still lied in court, NOTHING was done. She berates me as a father in front of them. She has taken them and "hidden" them and told my oldest not to tell me where they were. She grounds my oldest from his cell, which is fine if he deserves it, but that grounding includes not calling me, which means I don't get to talk to my 5-year old. She puts them in bed at early and then tells me they are already in bed I can't talk to them.

My ex has filed domestic assault charges on me when I was bending down to pick up our 5-year old son, she was yelling at me and I wanted to get him and myself out of the situation. When I went to pick up our son, she came forward and bumped the top of my head. I had a ballcap on. She took steps back and said I head butted her. So now I go to anger management, my children are told I am abusive. She even had it set up so that I would be arrested at drop off so the boys would see the whole affair. Luckily, the officer realized the situation and didn't allow that to happen. My anger management counselor has stated I am normal and don't have an issue except for the fact she is mean and manipulative and using the kids.

If there are support groups to be recommended tell me now!!!

I have finally met an honest woman who is fighting this fight with me. She documents everything. She's a teacher and a mother of older children and keeps me up-to-date on situations like mine trying to give me ideas to help us and my two sons.

I feel for all those kids and dad's out there! The system is really against us.

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