PAS: In Their Minds, I'm a Villian

My soon-to-be-exwife continues to say that I am supported in all I do when it comes to parenting my children.. Yet, I hear my STBX constantly telling our children:

- Don't pay attention to what I say.
- I am a bad person.
- It is my fault we are divorcing (she had multiple affairs, not me).
- Basically, she does all they can to make me look bad.

I set limits and guidelines and follow-through. A good example is setting limits on videogame time. Stop in two hours or you lose time tomorrow. The children get angry and yell, so I warn to stop or I will take away Wii for a week. They don't, so I take it away. Then, when I am out of the house the she gives it back to them. The result? I look like the big meanie to the kids.

She allows them stay out after dark on school nights and I say no. Everyting I do, the she undoes.

She buys them pretty much everything they want... In their minds, I am a villian, yet, I feel like I am the ONLY true parent here. Making matters worse, she and I are still living in the same house with our kids. When I say anything to the kids my she just laughs at me or makes faces.

Each day it is harder and harder to get these kids to listen to me at all.

~ST

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